Ok, well first I would like to make it clear that Im a decent looking girl which is why Im so lost as to why a guy would go to such extremes to do this to me!!
Okay ... I liked this guy at my gym for about 9 months. I never talked to him or anything but we looked at eachother a lot. I had a lot of friends at my gym and I talked to a lot of men on a regular basis but just as friends. I love meeting new people.
So anyways, months went by and I wanted to talk to this guy in the worst way. I think I have a phobia with talking to guys or something because I cant do it ... It always seems like such a struggle and it always takes so long for me to actually get up the nerve to do it.
Everytime I thought about talking to him I begin sweating like a madman, getting shaky, I go all red, I start to slur when I talk and I cant concentrate, Its really bad and I lose my appetite and have to go bathroom but I never go because I know its just my nerves. So talking to him seemed next to impossible.
I lost sooo much weight expecting things to come easier for me. I thought he seemed interested because he looked at me a lot and such and he started working out near me more than usual and everytime I looked at him, he looked down then he would look at me again. I thought these were the obvious signs ...
So oneday, I finally got up the nerve to approach him. I asked him how to do deadlifts. Because I really hadnt a clue how to do them anyways. And he was super nice!! He was friendly and he seemed like he was happy I had asked him. I played it cool and so that was that!
The next day I talked to him again. And I brought up the fact that I was interested in getting to know him better. I got his phone number and I told him I'd call him the next day sometime. I never gave him a specific time or anything.
Okay, so just to fill ya in, I over-analyse things wayy too much. Like, for example. When he gave me his phone # I thought maybe it was the wrong one. But it wasnt. He did infact give me the right one. So this is what went down.
I called him the next day and his sister answered and said he was sleeping and she said that she would wake him up for me if I wanted. I didnt want her to wake him so I told her, I'd just try back later and she said he'd be home and that would be a good idea.
So I tried back later and he was STILL sleeping. This time she didnt offer to wake him up but I asked her when he'd be available and she said he might be going out now. Hmm. This made me suspicious and I kinda got the feeling she was sending me on a wild goose chase.
Soooooo, later on that night I called back and there was nooo answer. Then I mustve called backed 30 more times after that. Hope to dear god that didnt show up on his phone and I admit that was a little dumb of me to call him so much but I really wanted to get a hold of him just to find out whats going on, right??
So I left a message asking him to phone me back and let me know, does he wanna get to know me or did I read too much into it.
No phone call.
Still no phone call ...
He must hate me a whole lot not to have the decency to let me know where I stand! Why the hell would he do this to me ? Why didnt he just tell me no, you cannot have my # number or why didnt he give me a fake #. I wouldve gotten the hint at least. Why give a girl your number if you dont wanna talk to her? He seemed so willing too when I asked him for his #.
What do you think the problem was?
Can someone help me?
Because this sent my self esteem right down the tube
And it helped and I agree, I came on too strong and that probably scared him off. But I wont be seeing him anymore anyways because my membership at that gym ran out and to avoid HIM and the humiliation of calling so many times, I got a membership at another gym and Im gonna look for a guy outside the gym to avoid the akwardness of it all because it can be awkward hehe* Im sorry that that happened to you too, it can suck bigtime, and I dont know why guys just cannot be upfront and honest. It wouldve saved a lot of time if he had just said he wasnt interested or he was already involved with someone. Oh well.
