My boyfriend dumped me - Teen Health Message Board

PennyLane16 · 08-18-2002, 10:34 PM

Hey everyone. Four days my boyfriend of 8 months dumped me. We're both sixteen so that's a pretty long time. He was my first boyfriend. He had recently told a bunch of his friends that he went down on me (which is true). But he told them some pretty embarrassing and graphic things. I emailed him asking him why he did it and asking him if the only reason he was with me was to get some play. He emailed me back saying that he had thought about it and I was right, the only reason he was with me was to get some action. I called him and he told me that he had felt like that for a while and it would be wrong to stay with me. School is starting soon and I think I'm going to have all my classes with him. I need help getting over it and getting on with my life. I feel empty now and really self concious. I don't know how to deal with it all. Please help someone. Thanks.

HumbleMan10248 · 08-18-2002, 11:36 PM

hiya penny dont worry about your ex b/f he did u a fav by letting u go cos if all he wants is some action and if what u want is a decent relationship then good riddance, but hon if u still like this guy then u have to decide what u really want...

about the skool thing i know that prob might be hard situtaion but hopefully u can come to a conclusion by the time skool starts what it is u want that way your ex knows your not part of his life anymore and so he is not important anymore that is if u want nothing more to do with him

also about him saying those intimiate things about your sex life, it could be that he does really like u but is trying to be macho infront of his friends ...best thing is if u wnat to be with him then sit and talk to him about it and make it clear to him if he wants to be part of your life he has to clean up his act or he is out the door....ok he may of dumped u now but when skool starts and if he genunily like u he will be back!

Humble Man

mothmin · 08-19-2002, 07:50 PM

He sounds like a loser penny, you did nothing wrong, just look for a guy with more class than that.

bev52 · 08-19-2002, 09:37 PM

Hey Penny,
It sounds like you got a pretty raw deal

but it isn't the end of the world. Time heals wounds. It sounds like he's got a problem with insecurity, otherwise, why would he feel the need to 'kiss & tell?'
Move on, and if anyone is bold enough to say anything to you,(which I doubt), just shrug it off and don't make the same mistake he did by talking about it. The upside of it is - you're starting a new year,

and there's other guys that don't do things like he did.
Best of luck to ya,
leppi

Katbabe1987 · 08-22-2002, 04:38 PM

What!? ANY guy that would go around telling YOUR and HIS personal business has NO reason to be with someone like you. Forget this guy. Don't be self concious about yourself because all the people that care don't matter...just because he went down on you, and said it stunk or whatever does NOT mean it does. Some people may just not like the taste or smell. For another guy, you may smell and taste as sweet as can be. It really depends on your likes/dislikes. However, just because he didn't like it doesn't mean he should've told your business. If he was also with you just to get some play, then I'd tell him g/l on finding anyone that will give it to him.

Forget him, he's not worth one single tear of yours! Cheer up and find someone new. If you don't, you'll only waste precious time

Hope this helps!

Kat

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