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Old 05-17-2012, 10:07 PM   #1
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Unhappy Please help.. Idk whats wrong..

Okay. Let me start off by saying I do have ADD and it accounts for some of my impulsiveness. I have a serious jealousy problem too. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 8 months. My jealousy has gotten to the point where we have "rules" to where we can't touch, text, or hang out, with the opposite sex. She has cheated on me. She has also send nude pictures through her email. That just makes me not trust her at all. She lies to me about random things, like texting her ex boyfriend, and hugging guys at school. I have always had jealousy problems. I can't stand it when my gf talks to guys. I also get really mad when she says a guy is cute, even when it's just an actor or a singer. It pisses me off when she says " Omg I love him!" about an actor or singer or any guy. She can't talk to certain guys because I don't trust her around them. I get jealous even when she just tells me about any of her guy friends. I feel that if I trusted her, we'd have less problems. I also have some really bad mood issues. One second I'll be happy, and then my girlfriend will do or say something that will just enrage me for no reason. Even small things like her giving guys high gives pisses me off. I also have a very short fuse. I've yelled at her a few times. I'm worried she'll leave me eventually. She says it's okay that i get jealous, but it pisses her off sometimes. I'll even get mad when her friends walk with us down the hallway at school. I don't know what to do. Help me?

 
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Old 05-17-2012, 11:01 PM   #2
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Re: Please help.. Idk whats wrong..

Be worried! She will leave you sooner rather than later if this is going to be her life with you.
You sound very young and you have a fair bit of growing up to do. You are putting too much responsibility for your moods on your girlfriend. "If I could trust her, I would be happy". I don't think so. There is a lot of work to be done here. You say she enrages you - what is really happening here is that she does or says something and you choose to blow up and get really mad. It sounds like she is taunting you a bit, sort of rubbing your nose in stuff. That is where SHE needs to grow up too. The big thing here is that she is probably the worst girlfriend you could choose, but maybe you need to work with her to learn to control your responses.
The bottom line - it is YOUR anger, YOUR short fuse. You had all these issues in you before you met her, and you will take them into every relationship, hauling it around like an old suitcase. Deal with it now. Get some counseling, or do an anger management course, read books, etc. Sera

 
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