OK, I just got back from the pre-admmission visit before surgery. I talked to an anesthesiologist(you know I spell checked that one) and asked him about complications. He said for someone my age(35) that its no big deal. I will be out for only about 1 1/2 hours total. He said the risks get higher when you get older.
If this makes you feel any better my 70yr old father in law just got a quad bypass that took 8 hours of surgery only to have 2 vertebrae fused together in his neck 2 months later with several more hours of surgery. He was fine both times.
Remember doctors can have bad personalities just as in any other profession. You might have a bad experiance with someone at a video store because of their personality. So you would probably not go back to that store. Of course there is a big differance between videos and your body. You need to find a doctor that can give you a little comfort insted of hellfire and damnation.
You might want to consider another doctor.