I was able to shower the next day---it was soothing, and I washed my hair then too. My surgeon didn't care if I got it wet.
The only thing I was told not to do was look up. So I couldn't rinse with my head back.
It hurt a bit when I turned side to side, so I wasn't comfortable driving for about day five or so.
I slept in a bed, but couldn't sleep on my side for a few days, and I propped the pillows carefully.
I found ice cream, ices, pudding and jello great the first few days, because my throat felt sore.
And I couldn't yell at my kids for about 2-3 weeks, which they liked.
I wish both of you speedy recoveries!