quote you: "What am I supposed to do when my doctor won't listen to me?"
My thought: Find another doctor! Seriously, don't let them waste your time. In hindsight, I am so frustrated at how much time was wasted by docs who didn't listen to me. YOU know how YOU feel. You must have the tenacity of a weed to continue your search for a knowledgeable doctor / naturopath / person. Don't give up the fight.
quote you: "Also, has anyone had any luck with getting a naturopath to listen?"
My thought: YES... it wasn't until I found a good ARNP and naturopath that I finally got Dx'd (see my thread "hypothyroid sucks... hi, I'm new". Unfortunately, the ARNP doesn't contract with insurance companies so, I had to send in the paperwork myself, and was promptly denied reimbursement. Which stinks but, no matter... I've wasted enough copays on useless doctors who take insurance coverage but provide nothing in the way of results. I've decided that if I have to pay for it out of my own pocket to get some knowledgeable, compassionate assistance, then that's what I'm going to do.
Edited to added: your analogy of pushing the boulder up the hill only to have it roll back down actually the Greek Mythology story of Sisyphus. Just a bit of trivia.
See the google search link... the images sure do ring familiar in our situation, don't they?
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One more thing, re: the inability to take a deep breath... I've noticed this too. Just last week I decided to watch some youtube video on Tai Chi - Qigong in the hopes of it helping me to fall asleep easier. Well, not only did it help me to fall asleep, it's helped me to take deeper breaths. Something about the practice of very slow movements combined with slow deep breaths has made a positive difference. Just something you might want to try.