Hey Cheryl, Just wanted to check in and see how Mike is doing this weekend? Is he feeling any better? Glad to hear that the Flexeril helped him some, but it is ashame it has to make you sooo tired. Anyway, I sure hope he is feeling better this weekend and enjoying himself the way kids that age should.
And, how are you doing? Any big plans for Mother's Day? Emily is spending the night with my parents tonight (in place of a brownie camping trip) so Mike and I are going out for just a little while. My parents only live 1/2 block away so if she has any problems we are right here. This is only her 2nd time away at night. But I am sure she will do fine. She is all packed and ready to go. She has been excited about this all week. Then tomorrow we are going out for lunch when we pick her up from my Mom's.
Well, hope you have a good weekend and that Mike is feeling better. Take care, Michelle
How have you been doing? Is that Flexeril helping you out now? Hey, if you have to take it, then you have to take it. Is it helping out with those headaches? Maybe as soon as you get your new splint, you won't need it anymore. I've got my fingers crossed for you.
He's been hanging in there. He cried so hard on our walk last night about his head hurting him. He's just so frustrated already. We talked for awhile (he refuses at this time to see any type of counselor) and eventually I took him over to my Mother's house. She has a way of talking to him to make him feel better. He agreed that he's going to start talking to Grandma from now on, too.
As for Mother's Day, I'm just going to relax! I'm hoping that it doesn't rain, I enjoy doing yardwork, helps the mind. I'm hanging in there, thanks for asking. I took my Mother out to eat last weekend, it always seems as though my brother and sister want to take her out on that day, so this way it works out better.
I hope you and Mike enjoy yourselves this evening, an evening without children is rare, so enjoy! Maybe Emily will really get into these sleepovers and want to go more often! hehe. Happy Mother's Day, and I'll talk to you soon.
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Thanks for asking about me. I am feeling much better since taking the Flexeril again. I feel the same way as you said, I would take it forever if it keeps making me feel so much better. I too am hoping that the splint helps though so I don't have to take anything, but I guess I am trying not to get my hopes up too much.
So sorry to hear about Mike still having so much pain. It is really wonderful that he has your Mom to talk to. I know how special that grandparent relationship can be. The house I live in was my Granny's(my Dad's Mom) house so she only lived 1/2 block away from me all my life. I was closer to her than I was with my own Mother. She was that one person in life that I had that very special relationship with that you just don't find again. I miss talking to her so much. She used to know just the right thing to say. Tell Mike to cherish that friendship with your Mom. ( I am sure he does already) I many times have wondered what my Granny would say about this TMJD mess. The problems with the tooth that set this all off started right after she passed away. I actually remember the tooth bothering me the day of her services. I am sure she would have told me to have the tooth pulled in the beginning. I still don't know if that would have made a difference with all this or not. Guess I never will.
Well, hope you had a Happy Mother's Day. Did you get anything done outside? We don't have the rain and storms here yet, but they are definitely coming. Emily really enjoyed spending the night at my Mom's. It would be nice if they would have her more often, but I can't see that becoming a habit. My Mom works full time and likes her weekends to get stuff done. I guess I can understand, but at the same time I keep reminding her of all that she will miss with the grandkids too. Guess I just want Emily to have that special someone too.
Well, tell Mike to hang in there, those better days will come!!!! My specialist said that for some people this just "goes away" over time. (I joked with him and asked if that was after losing all your teeth and getting false one's) He said it just does as your life changes over the years. I am wondering if he was talking in reference to the "stress" part of it.
Well, hope you have a good week and that it gets some better for Mike this week. I will talk to you soon. Take care, Michelle
I hope that you had a nice Mother's Day. Mine was nice. My son got me a card and a really nice flower, and my husband wanted to take me out for dinner, but it's always so crowded everywhere today, I'd rather just go another day. I didn't get much done outside, we had 57 mph winds today, and it constantly looked like it was going to storm. Oh well, there's always tomorrow. It was just one of those relaxing, do nothing days. (those are always nice once in awhile)
So, when's the day for the new splint? Should be this week, huh? Put it in your head that this one WILL work for you. You were sounding alittle pessimistic, don't be! (I know it's sometimes hard not to be, I get the same way)
My son's weekend wasn't too bad. He spent Saturday at my Mom's. She still works full-time, too, so on the weekends she backed up with work. He was up there for the entire day helping her with yardwork. He seemed to enjoy himself. They're planning a sleepover at her house, watching movies, snacks, etc...I'll have to watch, he'll want to go live with her soon!!!!
I know what you mean about Grandparents. I'm sorry that you lost your Grandmother. When I was young, every summer I'd go stay with my Grandmother for about a month. It was soooo fun. We have always been close. She's still here, but when you get older, it seems as though you're always so short on time. I'd love to see her more, though. But at least we talk frequently.
I found another specialist in my area, I didn't even know about him until someone mentioned him. I understand that he works with kids and tmj. (and his office is only 10 blocks away!) I'm going to call tomorrow and see when I can get my son in to see him. I'd like his opinion on the splints that he wears, and whatever else. If he seems better than the current doctor, or has any better ideas, I'll switch. Besides, I know that the current doctor is going to release him by the end of the month, with a referral, of course, to the pain clinic. We'll see...I've already checked into where to take him, if I need to.
Well, anyway, he's excited-this week, the class is going on a field trip on Tuesday. (which he was afraid of going) I stopped in the school last week, and was talking to one of the teachers, and she said that he should go anyway, (he's afraid of his jaws hurting more with going on the rides) Here, the girl that he likes was there and said, "Oh, tell him to go, I can't ride either, we can hang around together all day". He was thrilled. So was I, I know her parents, and she's a "good" girl.
Are you okay, Michelle? I got the impression by your post that you seemed really down in the dumps. Things will get better, all of this won't be forever. Sometimes it just seems like it, but it won't. Tell Emily hello, and have a good week. Take Care,
This guy should put a smile on your face!
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Sounds like you had a pretty good Mother's Day. I know what you mean about it being too busy to go out. We picked Emily up from my Mom's around lunch time and headed to one of our favorite restaurants. Well, there was a long line outside even, so we went to our 2nd choice. The food was good though. And I didn't have to cook all day.
That is so nice of Mike to help his Grandmother with her outside work. I imagine she really loves the company too. Isn't it sometimes nice to be close to family? But then other times you wish you could move far away? (haha)
I am hoping and praying for Mike that the new specialist you found out about will be the one to really help him. Can you imagine, only 10 blocks away? Maybe that is a sign!!!!
That is so neat about the girl Mike likes saying for him to come on the trip since she can't ride either. Hopefully that will turn out to be a really good day for him and they will get to hang out together. Emily's teacher told me that there is a boy in the class that has a crush on Emily. (in 1st grade) Apparently Emily has no idea. Hopefully she will wait till she is about Mike's age to start liking boys. I know I was boy crazy all my life from what I can remember. She doesn't seem to take after me.
Thanks for asking how I am! I guess my reason for sounding so negative is that I am thinking that no matter what they do for me if I don't get the bite fixed it is all just treating the symptoms and not the actual problem. That really bothers me. But if a splint takes away the pain then I will be glad!!! I think what bothers me is taking medication to cover up the pain and not actually treating the problem itself. Flexeril sure does work for me, but when I stopped it and the problems came right back, it just reminded me that my bite is the problem and without fixing it we can only treat the symptoms. The only way to fix my bite is with braces. And the opinions on that with all the Dr's I have seen have been mixed. The orthodontist himself said it may not be the answer and that surgery may still be necessary. Well, surgery is never going to be an option for me. It scares me too much to even think about it. So, I guess that is what you may be hearing in my post. You must be very perceptive. Thanks for that though! You are a good friend and I am so glad to have met you through this bulletin board.
Well, hope Mike has a good week and that you get him that appointment. Keep me posted. Take care, Michelle
Don't be so hard on yourself. Okay, so the Flexeril is working for you now, right? You continue to take it until you get your splint. How long do you have until the splint comes in, a week or so? You're not going to take these forever, and you're not a drug addict! They're helping you out with pain.
Now when your splint comes, you wear that faithfully whenever they tell you to. You told me yourself that you thought this whole mess was connected to one tooth. Maybe you began a terrible habit of clenching due to that tooth, therefore, this splint will help break you of that habit. Once you break the habit, the muscles relax, and you're okay. Then, you won't even need the splint, anymore. Try to think of this simply, because it probably is.
Concerning your bite, you CAN'T get anything done with your bite until the pain subsides. If they start moving teeth around while the pain's still there, you may get worse. From the reading I've been doing for my son, there are other ways of working with a bite other than braces. As for surgery, I wouldn't let anyone touch him, unless I ran out of every single option out there, and 10,000 doctors said that was the only answer. Read what some people have gone through with surgeries.
Sometimes when we deal with pain, our minds start traveling a thousand places a minute. I'm the same way, last week one day, I woke up with my jaws killing me from clenching so bad at night. I sat in front of the computer to do some research, and my mind just started going with what if's. I nearly drove myself to an anxiety attack!!! I'm not doing that anymore, it's one step at a time. Take care of the pain first. Then, once he's feeling better, check out more with the bite. Try to relax, and take one thing at a time. You'll drive yourself nuts! Try to put it in your head that this splint will work, and instead of the problem resulting from your bite, maybe it was from that one tooth, and that caused you to clench all the time....
Sorry to sound like your Mother, but this may be something simple, and if the time comes that it's a little more complicated, there are other options out there other than surgery or braces. Don't what if yourself!!!! Relax!
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Thank you so much for reminding me of all these things. I know the clenching started over the one tooth and that it can stop just as easily as it started and I am hoping that the new splint does that for me. The new Dr. I see is so calm and explains things to me in such a nice way that he really makes me believe it can go away. I am hoping to hear from them this week that the splint is in and then I can get over there early next week to get it. Hopefully it won't need too much adjustment. It is supposed to be more loose fitting than the first one was. I am so used to wearing a top one that I think it will take a bit for me to get used to a bottom one but I do really think a bottom one will be better. You made me feel alot better with your post. I can tell that you really understand. Thank you!!
How is Mike today? Were you able to get an appointment with the new Dr? I hope he had a good day! Take care, Michelle
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The doctor's appt's. were running well into June, but I explained how long he's been dealing with this, and his age, so he's got an appt. for May 28th. Oddly enough, the doctor isn't in on Wednesdays, and this appt. date is a Wednesday. I even mentioned that to the receptionist, and she said he usually isn't in on Wednesdays, but for us to come in. I hope this is the right doctor. We'll see....
Take Care, Cheryl
Cheryl, That is good that they got you in on the 28th. I sure hope the Dr. is definitely there. I am getting a feeling that this is an answer for you. I will keep praying about it.
Tell Mike thanks for telling me the bottom one was easier to get used to. That makes me feel alot better!! I am going to go into this one with a positive attitude. Mike just saying that made me feel better about it.