Lately I have been feeling like I can't concentrate, I'm not interested in anything anymore. all I do is stay home and watch tv. I am 21 years old and I know this isn't normal. I feel like nothing interests me anymore. I feel like i never want to leave the house again. I used to be a really social person. I used to go out a lot last year and I would drink a lot of alcohol because that helped the pain more than the pain killers did. Having a few shots was the only time I didn't feel pain. But I got scared that I was getting out of control so I stopped going out and I stopped drinking. And now all I do is sit at home. I don't know what to do with myself. I am in so much pain. The pain killers I take just make me sick and don't even help the pain and I don't know what to do anymore. I have been in chronic pain for 6 years and I am so sick of it. It's getting worse instead of better. Am I depressed? Is something wrong with me? What do I do? I can't keep living like this. My family keeps yelling at me but I just can't seem to get out of this moping phase.
Anyone that deals with chronic pain is going to become depressed. Who wouldn't be? Are you currently seeing doctors for your tmjd problem? Maybe it wouldn't be a bad idea talking to someone until you are well. (I don't know how you feel about psych's, but maybe good friends could help) And no, nothing is 'wrong' with you, you don't feel well. Do your parents understand how painful this is? If you have no one to talk to, come to the board when you're down, everyone here is great. Hang in there, life will get better.
[This message has been edited by CherylLynn24 (edited 10-31-2003).]
Good morning Stacie-
Oh Stacie, I totally agree with Cheryl, find someone to talk to about your pain Stacie. We are all here for you and will support you from all over the world. But I think that it is important for you to also find someone to physcially sit down with and just talk to. Stacie, I do not know your story but your pain is real, I am not talking about talking to shrink because of stress or emotions causing your TMJ. We all know better then that, we know there are physcial reasons for your TMJ and our too. I am talking about someone to help you talk about all that you have been dealing wit, someone to cry with, someone to laugh with, someone to scream at, someone to let you know it will be okay.
Hugs Stacie from all across the world to you today and everyday.
[This message has been edited by DianeTMJ (edited 08-04-2003).]
Hey there Stacie!
Oh u poor thing I understand where u are coming from cause i'm in the same situation, and nobody seems to understand at all! I have been like this all year and i know its awful, but just hang in there don't give up remember there is a solution to every problem ,and there are lots of alternatives to medication remember, I got great results from sacro cranial therapy and my specialist also suggested accupuncture so these methods might be worth investigating. Its also invaluable to have someone to talk to about things. I hope you feel better soon!!!
Lots of Hugs and best wishes
~He who would leap far must first take a long run~
I understand how you're feeling. I can usually deal with this pretty well, but the past week, my teeth hurt so bad that it hurts to brush them and I've got a killer of a headache that I just haven't been able to get rid of for several days. Some days are good, some days are horrible and then some are tolerable. I don't have any real answers for you, other than to let you know that most, if not all of us have been there before, or are there now.
I don't post much, but I do read most of the postings...and while it's not an answer, and it doesn't take the real physical pain away, it does help to know that you're not alone. Days like this I just want to go to bed and cry...but I know I can't. At least not til I get off of work! I hope you're doing better...and I think reading other's posts will help encourage you. Take care!
When a person lives in constant pain for a long time they get in this survival mode which most of us on this board are in. My family does not understand the pain either but what I have learned is that anyone who has never had chronic constant pain cannot even begin to understand what we feel like but there is nothing wrong with you other than you are in pain. Please don't give up, keep looking for some help. I know it is hard to find but I know it has to be out there somewhere. Hang in there, you are worth it.
I can totally relate to you and your depression. I have had this for 6 years and I finally feel that I can express my emotions about it. I have a hard time picking what emotion and at the right time. I feel bad because I use every emotion on my husband. I learned long time ago that I do that only to people that I feel "safe" with.
My specialist also has recommended me to go see a psychologist that specializes in tmj pain, or even just pain for that matter. It would not be a bad idea, but right now we need to treat my pain before I can deal with it for financial reasons. This web board also has ben very helpful for me with my emotions.
With all that said and done, the best thing for you is to fight the depression part, it will only get worse. I got to a point that the thought of leaving my house was scary. I have realized that I am very comfortable staying in my house 24/7, but it is not healthy to do so. I am not saying to over do yourself but go do something. You only get one life, and if you think about it the end will catch up to you, don't you want to enjoy it? I am in a lot of pain and most of the time I have to force myself to leave but the most important thing is that I do leave, but also rest.