hi, tony.. welcome to this forum. i can guarentee that you will learn a lot from this place and get a lot of support [i certainly have].
im young, too, [22], and have been dealing with TMJD everyday for 3.5 years. before that, i had frequent migraines/headaches since i was 7... so i know how it feels to be in pain.
first off, i'd suggest getting a proper diagnosis - try to find a good dentist and have a consultation. before doing any treatment, a diganosis is key.
here are some suggestions of what a dentist should do at a consultation to check if you have TMJD:
+ measures how far you can open wide and from side to side
+ muscle palpation [sees if there are tender muscles.. generally the pytergoids [sp?] are sore]
+ checks if there's joint noise/popping
+ tomograms - xrays of the TMJs, neck, skull, sinuses
+ health history - any accidents, trauma
+ review of your symptoms
i've been thru pretty much every type of treatment excluding surgery: massage, physical therapy, chiropracty, osteopathy, antidepressants, muscle relaxants, migraine meds, botox, acupuncture, TENS, etc etc etc.
right now, tho, i have an anterior repositioning splint that ive been wearing for a few weeks - the results have been amazing. nothing else ive tried has worked at all.. but this splint is - it's dramatically reduced my facial muscle pain! my mandible is underdeveloped, and the condyle isnt centered in the fossa. thus, the splint is moving my jaw forward into a more optimal and centered position.
anyway, in the meantime, while you're looking for a dentist, i'd suggest massage therapy and osteopathy to help out with your headaches and facial pain.
take care,
- saaraah.