FatAndDepressed

chances are you are not infected, but it is a VERY good idea to get tested. just a quick comment on the "knowing the women" part. my moms boyfriend is also in a simular situations, although the outcome was quite different (as far as we know right now). anyway my mom and her boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years now. 3 months ago my mom had to get some bloodwork done for a doctor. they tested her for everything, she was clean, and disease free. also a couple months prior to her testing her boyfriend went on a cheating spree and slept with 3 or 4 women, all of whom hes known for many years. of course him and my mom worked out their problems and last week she went in to get more bloodwork done for a surgery she had scheduled. her results came in yesterday and it said my mom is hiv positive. we are praying the test was wrong, and right now the lab is conducting a western blot test, we will know the results early next week. her boyfriend went and got tested as soon as my moms results came in, so we will know his results next week too. as i said, hopefully, God willing, the results of this next test will be negative. my mom also already has a bad immune system from implants she recieved 18 years ago. i have no idea if she is truely positive if her already bad immune system will cause the hiv to effect her faster, we just pray shes negative. my point is though, that even if you think you know someone "really" good, and have known them for years, it does not neccessarily mean they are clean. maybe they are picky with who they see, but that doesn't mean they couldn't have slept with someone who was infected. and on another note, alot of people don't have any signs or sickness to indicate they have the hiv infection. there are ALOT of people who live many many years with the virus and never know, never have any symptoms or signs. my whole point is, while it is unlikely you have it, its still not safe for anyone (not just you, but everyone) to assume they have only been with "clean" partners, or if they had it they'd have some sort of symptom. hiv is a very unpredictable disease, just when they think they've figured it all out, they find something new. i am in no way claiming to be an expert on hiv/aids, but i have done so much reading and searching the internet and calling and talking to dozens of doctors today, that i did find out alot of things i didn't know. i figured i would share the information i found out with you. i am sure your test results will be negative, and you have nothing to worry about, so try not to worry too much. i know thats easier said than done. i wish you and your special woman the best, and take care of yourself. God bless!