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Old 02-25-2005, 06:51 PM   #1
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Two MC's and brave enought to try again?


Just feeling overwhelmed, in Oct I MC'ed for the second time, we are trying again now that we are finally in our new house and rid of the stress that had caused the second MC. Kind of need a pep talk! My friend just had her second baby and I should have been due in a couple of months. Not to mention that his work is making it impossible to be in the same country little alone in the same bed! Just how do you casually say "I'm ovulating and would really like to not take you to the airport right now!"? I'm also worried about getting pregnant again- I seem to be unable to get past 12 weeks. The doctors are no help because all they say is at least you can get pregnant and they keep telling me to relax and cut some of the stress. I quit school until next fall, I work part-time and the house is built. I don't smoke or sit in second-hand smoke, I rarely drink (wine only) and have never done drugs. I'm a fit 25 year old who takes the right vitamines and exercises 6 days a week for four years strait (my job). What more can I do? Anyone else out there with a sad story like mine?
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Old 02-26-2005, 04:48 AM   #2
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hi
soory tohear your sad news.i had a mc a few yrs ago now and have had two kids since who r now both grown up to 12,and 6.please dont think you wont have any you will .i know how you feel right now really i do.but now i thank myself for my lovely daughter of 12 .i hope things move on 4 u soon and try to get lots of rest around the times that af is due when u get preg it may help.sorry cant help anymore but keep happy and healthy and loss the stress.
good luck.if its any concillation my mc was horrid also i lost triplets over a few weeks because docs asummed there was only one when i mcd so i lost the rest later not knowing i was still preg.so i will watch your posts and try to help if i can.
good luck
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Old 02-26-2005, 07:59 AM   #3
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Hi,so sorry for your losses,it's something only another woman who has gone through can truly understand.After my first dd I had 3 m/c's all before 8 weeks.I changed my gyn and saw a specialist who found the problem straight away.I had aquired immune problems (which only showed up WHEN I was pregnant)and then went on to have my second dd after having Heparin injections everyday of the pregnancy! After the 3rd m/c I was totally devastated and thought I would never have another baby,but I did.I was frightened all the way through the 5th pregnancy(2nd child) as I thought I would lose my baby,but I didn't! Have courage,don't give up,find help from another gyn if you are not being taken seriously.
On Monday I found out my 6th pregnancy had come to an end when I went for a check-up,no heart beat at nearly 9 weeks.On Tuesday I had the baby removed.So that's 4 m/c's now,BUT this time there was a problem with the egg and not to do with my immune system (I was having heparin shots again)It's such a devastating thing.I was curious about how you are sure you lost your last baby due to stress?(I'm a stressed person and a big worrier too!)Anyway,be strong and know that one day this will all be behind you,never look back,always forward.I wish you all the best.

 
Old 02-27-2005, 10:04 PM   #4
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There was no other explination than the level of stress. I tend to do a hundred things at one time and I'm a perfectionist so I will nit pick a project and not sleep for days until I know what I want to do has been done. At the time we were building our house (and had a bunch of idots working on it), my ex had me in court because he can't pay his bills and my mother was in trouble with her job and was scaring the whole family (she is on anti-depressants) and to make everything else worse DH was gone for work and no idea when he was going to get home. I had a test for HCG levels to make sure everything was all right before I flew home (I'm considered high-risk because my family has Diebties). I was having cramps when I got back three days later and went back to the Doc, who was great and did a full exam. He put me on bed rest for a few days which was interupted as soon as I got home because the idiots working on our house were putting windows and doors in the wrong place! After several phone calls and the foreman coming out (who could walk on water as far as I am concerned) to the house to ok the changes for the tenth time! Two days later I was getting more calls looking for my ex (which DH hates to get) and I had to make more phone calls to get a hold of him. Then I had my ex mother-in-law calling looking for Stupid (AKA-ex). By the next morning I was back in the hospital and the HCG levels had dropped a bit making the Doc upset which in turn upset me even more. By Sat, one week later, I was back in the hospital because I had MC'ed. The staff was great I just wish Pananma City, FL would drop off into the ocean and a Tornado whould take out a certain house in Ohio and get rid of my Ex and his mother! Thank you for your concern and support! Have a good week!
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Old 02-28-2005, 01:12 AM   #5
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I just wanted to wish you luck, you will be in my thoughts and i will keep my fingers crossed for you to have a safe journey through your next pregnancy.

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Old 02-28-2005, 03:01 PM   #6
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Hi, skl 1979 -- I too just suffered from my 2nd miscarriage in December I also have a best friend that is pregnant and we were due a couple weeks apart. Its time for her baby shower and I'm the one hosting it so its been kind of a roller coaster of emotions for me! I'm not sure how I'll act once the baby is here...I'm so happy for her and woulnd't want it any other way, but deep down in it hurts so much knowing that I'm no longer pregnant! My ob/gyn is excellent he didn't mess around with anything! He sent me to have testing done to make sure it wasn't something causing the miscarriages and to find out it was something...folic acid defiency..my body doesn't produce enough folic acid to keep a baby alive..folic acid is a big role in pregnancy! So I am now on prescribed folic acid pills caz the over the counter ones aren't stong enough for my body. Did your ob/gyn do any testing on you before he ruled it as stress??? Also, were you under alot of stress with your 1st miscarriage? If not maybe you could ask for testing to be done to ease your mind a little! I'm not back ttc yet caz I have to be on folic acid pills 3 months prior to trying again...The chance of miscarriage is still there, but not nearly as high! So I know your pain all to well!!! Best Wishes to you!!!

 
Old 03-01-2005, 06:56 PM   #7
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Beanie,
I had an appointment after that checked all of the blood levels and stuff that I still really don't understand and everything was fine except for the HCG levels fell once I was really stressed. There is some research to suggest that stress and HCG are linked. We are military so it is easy for me to go in and get blood work and urine test done at the drop of a hat- for free! I've been taking folic 400mg for over a year and there was nothing in the screening that suggested I was missing. I am anemic from time to but I can kick that by eating dark greens and eating steak (which I craved) instead of chicken. My sister was a dietitian and who better to ask than a woman who has four healthy kids and a degree? She is still unhappy with the fact that I backed her info up on the internet but you can search for all kinds of stuff on the net! I'm rambling and DH is home finally! The net is a great source of info and I really hate to think about figuring this all out with out it!
Good luck to you,
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