Plotting TTC- not romantic? - Trying to Conceive (TTC) Message Board

shamrockcb · 11-03-2005, 02:59 PM

Hi there, I've been TTC for a few months now, and I'm wondering if any of you have issues with telling your husband when u are going to be fertile. He wants a baby as much as I do, but every time I explain that its the right time, he says that its not romantic, and that it will happen when it happens. Perhaps it is the way I deliver my message but I want to make sure that we BD during that time ya know? I've also tried educating him on the fact that there is only a short window every month but I think he believes its going to be easier

Any advice?

PS, I'm such an organized person perhaps I'm putting too much planning into this? Its so hard not to though!

FairyMagick · 11-04-2005, 01:18 AM

Hi,
I think this is a subject that really needs to be brought up! I'm glad someone finally did. I think this happens when most couples. I had a simpler experience I would tell b/f my o test was + and he would act like a werido lol. I asked him about it, and he said it made him feel like it was a pressure thing

I have decided not to tell him about the testing. I upset me at first, but then I realized so many men are like that. I am like you. I like things plotted out. But I gave that up regarding TTC. I'm going about it a bit different now. I am curious what other woman will have to say about this.

tropbelle28 · 11-04-2005, 04:34 AM

Same here!!!! My DH doesn't exactly go weird, but it kind of makes things a little awkward and stilted between us. I guess from a man's point of view they HAVE to deliver to order (lol!) at a particular time and they have no control over when it is, so I guess it could be a little stressful! I too am quite organised and have spent the last 7 months being quite regimented about TTC, so now I have decided to go with flow a little more and not take it so seriously (easier said than done). DH is aware of when our fertile time is but we are trying to make it more fun and romantic anyway.

I'm so glad it's not just us feeling like this!

TB x

shamrockcb · 11-04-2005, 07:44 AM

phew! So glad I'm not the only one, thanks for responding

I sincerely am going to try my best to "go with the flow". Hopefully the upcoming holidays will keep me so busy it will be easy to do that anyhow!

Hersheykiss · 11-04-2005, 08:18 AM

This can cause stress to the men. Sometimes mine won't get off because he's under pressure. I am forced to tell him when its time because our schedules don't match so I would never get pregnant if I wasn't paying attention to the timing.

My hubby has a good sense of humor though. It's my BD time and last night I told him get in here and do your duty and then get the heck out. I said I feel like a black widow spider. I use him up and then throw him away.

Maybe its because we've been together for 14 years.