NOT REALLY IN "THE MOOD!!" - Trying to Conceive (TTC) Message Board

ElliB · 01-11-2006, 10:28 AM

Hello everyone:

My husband and I have been married for over four years now and I've never been on BC and I've never gotten pregnant. I've always wanted to be but it's just never happened

. This last year has been especially hard because everyone around me seems to be getting pregnant and they didn't even want to. (I'm sure some of you can relate.) My best friend has had 3 abortions and just got pregnant again!! (she's going to keep it) And his 21 year old sister has had 3. Two she gave up for adoption. Without my faith all of this would be so much harder.

Anyways, lately I've been really trying but sometimes I "forget" that you have to have sex in order to get pregnant. Well I don't know about you guys but I really don't feel like having sex when all I can think about is having a baby. (Does that make sense?) I was just wondering if any of you feel or have felt the same before?

Thanks and Baby dust to us all!

Elliana

nancy30 · 01-11-2006, 12:25 PM

I feel the same way. I actually dread having to have sex and am so relieved when ovulation time is over so that I don't have to go again for another month.

When we have sex, it reminds me of all the infertility stuff.

sammieP · 01-11-2006, 02:07 PM

Oh i can relate to that, i find the more we try the more im not in the mood but try to make the effort.

Dh says its unromantic to do in on demand, i find im uop for it after af and before o but not after, the drive seems to go down.

Keep on trying though.

One other thing - if its been 4years have you thought of going to the doctor for further advise? Mine were great when we explained the situation.

Good luck

chysmom · 01-11-2006, 04:05 PM

I can relate since we have started to BD every other day its like sex ugh. But dh and I try different things, like spiceing it up or having more fun with it. We take a bath together or take a shower. Just do little things where neither of us think of why we are having sex.

Hellokitty1973 · 01-11-2006, 05:53 PM

I can totally relate.. and moreover, I don't want DH to have the impression that the only time I am "interested" is when I am O'ing! It seems to be the common feeling with me the past 2 months.. but I guess he'll take it where he can get it

Good luck with everything and try (and i know it's hard) to not think of it so much when it's time for BD.

Sprinklings of baby dust to everyone :::::::