18 months trying still not pregnant - Trying to Conceive (TTC) Message Board

magenta1974 · 04-10-2007, 08:32 AM

I'm 32 and have no children. I've been off the pill for 18 months and still not pregnant. My doctor will not refer me and says its normal to be waiting this long. I'm so frustrated . I work out my ovulation time and do all the things i'm supposed to do. I'm , i think healthy. Not obese and have normal regular periods. Has anyone any advice? I'm starting to get really worried.

lfrsdcv · 04-10-2007, 09:21 AM

Hi Magenta

I'm 36 and have been trying for 18 mnths with no luck. Have been to GP and she is going to do some basis tests, eg, bloods for hormone levels and exams to make sure everything is where it should be and fells having count done but she did say that normally no one will really take much interest until you have been trying for at least two years!
The only thing I can say to you from my own experience is that it isn't easy and can be be damn frustrating at times but try not to let it eat away at you or before you know it has taken over your life and you can lose sight of everything else.
Doc recommended sex at least three times a week and relax about it as much as possible (easier said than done I know).
Be positive, our time will come.
Wishing you loads of luck, let me know how you are getting on

Claire xx

magster04 · 04-10-2007, 09:47 AM

Hi All,

When I went to see my doctor about why I wasn't getting pg. I took along my charts (I'd been tracking bbt and periods for almost a year) He could see I was serious, knew my body, wanted to know what could help. I was 27 at the time and had never been regular so by tracking I knew my body wasn't working right. The first thing he did was schedule a hsg for me which came out clear as well as checked my hormones. Everyone says just relax, it'll happen. I agree with Claire when she said it's frustrating at times! Keep us posted and good luck!!

hopefullone · 04-10-2007, 10:47 AM

Hi ya'll!! I have always heard that if you are under age 35 not pregnant within a year then a doctor should refer you for further help. (Over age 35 then 6 months) I'd switch doctors and see if a new doctor will refer you. Also if you're charting, bring the charts along so like magster04 said, they can see you are serious. If you're not charting, I'd suggest starting.

Good luck!

magenta1974 · 04-11-2007, 06:27 PM

thanks to everyone who took the time to reply. I really appreciate it. It seems the only one worried about it is me in my life. My partner just says oh don't worry it will happen when you least expect it. Basically so does everyone else. I went back to my docs today and told him i really wanted to see someone. I feel as though i am wasting time trying if maybe there is a problem. I told him my periods were normal. Every 28 days spot on the date if not a day late. He said that if i have no look in another 6 months he will refer me. Told me to relax etc. He didn't give me any advice on charting or anything. Then gave me the story of how he met his wife and she had trouble. Then one day it just ' happened'. She was 37 and they had been trying for over 2 years.
I'm just so worried and he didn't seem empathic at all.

can I just ask a question and forgive me if its a naive one. How do I chart? I obviously keep track of my periods and I also go to websites to find my fertile days. You know the ones where you put in your last period, length of cycle and it predicts your ovulation time. I have tried having sex only in missionary and remaining lying down afterwards.

Has anyone got any tips on what i can do? I take agnus cactus every morning.

Also something worrying me a bit. I was on the pill ' dianette' for a number of years prior to TTC and I've heard bad reports. Of course doc says nothing to worry about.

I'm getting so down about it and I really don't know what to do. 6 months of waiting is a long time. My doc says I have to have been TTC for 2 years without success for referral

once again thank you to everyone for any input in advance even if you have a success story after a while of trying as i am would be greatly appreciated