relaxation ideas - Trying to Conceive (TTC) Message Board

hopefullone · 06-10-2007, 06:43 PM

Hi y'all!!!!

I don't know about you, but I'm tired of BFNs!

I keep tryin to tell myself "relax" but its just impossible, especially when I see that positive on the OPK. I get all hyper and baby crazier than usual. So now before DH and I get to BDing for this cycle I wanted to get a list together of relaxation ideas to try. AF is just about to leave so I'll have some time to practice before we get down to serious business

So..anyone have any ideas on how we can take the too often heard advice of "relax"?

My idea-
The last time I got pregnant, I had gotten into the habit of having a glass of wine before bed. It lowered my inhibitions and helped get me into the mood. Don't know if it really helped get me pregnant or not, but who cares. At least I slept well that night.

If anyone else has any that have helped them, please contribute!

Good luck to y'all!!

Jackie

Nicky2112 · 06-11-2007, 02:22 PM

Hi Jackie,

I find soft music relaxing. If you want to make an entire evening out of it, I'd put on some jazz, light up some candles (they say lavander and vanilla are the most soothing scents), get some massage oils and some wine and let the romance begin! (If you have chocolate or oysters in hand, all the better).

I hope that helps. It's not something you want to do every day of the cycle (time consuming), but the moment your OPK gives you the go ahead I'd say go for it!

hopefullone · 06-11-2007, 06:29 PM

Thanks Nicky! Great idea! Anything would help when I see that positive OPK. DH gets "stage fright" sometimes when he knows its time. Maybe the lighting and music will help him relax (and me too!!!!!) Thanks for your help!!!

Nicky2112 · 06-11-2007, 08:50 PM

Girl! My DH gets performance anxiety too! I thought I was alone on that. I've even gone as far as getting him a porno (a total bust, btw). I was desperate! As it turns out, a good massage, some wine and soft music does the trick. And absolutely no baby talk!! It is weird how talking about procreation can turn guys off.

hopefullone · 06-12-2007, 10:19 AM

Oh you're not alone!! I'm sure there are many more of ours guys out there with performance anxiety!!! DH promises to "knock me up" this time. (So romantic, right!? ) Sometimes he says he wants to know when I get a positive OPK, and other times he says knowing its positive makes him freak out. I'm tempted to not use OPK at all this time and just BD at least every other day and go by BBT and CM to determine O day. That way I won't get all excited and crazy when I see a positive too.

Oh who am I kidding! I know I'll end up getting OPKs! Silly me.

Thanks for the advice!!!