Blastoff9600

How about calling your MIL and telling her you are both adults and that you have decided together that now is the time for you and YOUR husband to try for a baby. You can tell her that since you are adults you are both capable of this and dont need her sticking her nose in. Tell her if she has anymore issues with what you and YOUR husband decide to do it is best if she talks to both of you instead of one of you since you area couple. Just remember to be polite to her.
After you have that talk with her. Ask your dh if he will sit down with you after dinner and talk about your baby plans together. Let him know that you and he are the ones that make the choices for your family since you are a family even if you dont have kids yet. That you prefer both your families to stay out of the life choices you are making together. Make sure to mention your family as well so he doesnt think/feel you are against his mother. Guys can be real touchy about their mothers. So let him know you feel that way about yours as well. Let him know how you feel about his roundabout ways of hinting at changing the plans you and he already made. Let him know that he can talk to you about how he feels but it should be how he feels and not how others "may" have influnced that. Remember to stay calm and try not to get weepy or mad. That is a sure fire way to get him ot shut down and not want to talk. Let him know you understand he maybe having second thoughts but that you both arent the people your parents are comparing you too. And that how you feel and that you still want to stick to your original plans with him.

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Married 3/25/95
DS 13 yr
DS 8 yr (3+ yrs ttc)
TTC #3 since 01/02