New here - Trying to Conceive (TTC) Message Board

KarrianneM85 · 11-18-2007, 11:20 AM

Hello everyone. I have just found this site and thought you all seem like really nice people so I would join up. I'm Karrianne and me and my DH have been TTC for three years now. He is set in his ways and doesn't want to go the the doctors for tests but I am starting to worry that something is wrong. we have tried all sorts of traditional methods but so far nothing has worked. It seems like all I ever see are pregnant women and the only reason my and my DH BD anymore is to TTC it's all about timing and temps, it seems more like a military operation lol.

sorry for the rant but I felt like I had to get that off of my chest. any advice would be appreciated.

Yulata · 11-18-2007, 06:46 PM

Welcome Aboard!

You said you take temps... are you ovulating? Many of us use Basal Body Temperatures (BBT) and Cervical Fluid (CF) to help track our cycles. And a must read book is Taking Control of Your Fertility which helps explain all the things we should know about our bodies, but few of us do! It makes sense of your cycle and helps your maximize your change for getting pregnant.

Have you seen a ob/gyn and explained the situation to her/him? 3 years is a long time!

About DH, maybe he just needs some more information about what might and might not be required of him. Fear of the unknown is miserable! I think, for the first wave of testing all he would need to do is give a sample.

Best of luck!
Baby DUst
-Yulata

cashahn · 11-19-2007, 12:54 AM

Hi and welcome

I would go see an OB/GYN or Fertility spec even if you go for your own benefit and ask DH to come for moral support, once he's there he may find it's not so bad and scary. I think men see it as a threat to there manhood if the problem is a low sperm count, but lets face it, it's not the end of the world. There are so many ways that technology can help us out these days. Anyway I wish you all the best and keep us posted.

Cashahn xxxxxx

blue_eyed_girl · 11-19-2007, 08:15 AM

I understand. My husband tells me I only want him for his sperm.

I agree with the other posters, especially Cashahn. He is probably worried about his manhood.

KarrianneM85 · 11-20-2007, 12:12 PM

Thank you all for your support.

I have been tracking my bbt and I ovulate regular as clockwork. it's just so infuriating lol.

Thanks Yulata I will be on the look out for that book. I have read numerous things online that are "guaranteed to get you pregnant" there was me thinking there were no guarantees in life but aparently if you paid $40 odd you can lol. so it's good to get reccomendations from you guys

I know that Dh is feeling threatened. I mentioned to him that I go and get checked over but he was a bit shocked by that. I think he feels like it's his fault that I'm not PG and if I get checked over and everything comes back ok then he will feel worse. I dunno if I'm making any sense here or not lol