Embarrassing question - Trying to Conceive (TTC) Message Board

littlebo · 10-10-2008, 07:57 PM

I have never asked this of anyone else, even my doctor...but, I'm beginning to wonder if this may be contributing to DH and I having difficulty conceiving. Well, here goes. How common is it to "leak" some of partner's sperm after intercourse. I just about always, inspite of how long I lay still after BMS, will have some come back out when I get out of bed. It makes sense to me to have some leakage, but I worry if I'm losing too much preventing us from getting pregnant.

DH & I have been TTC ~16 months now. My OB/GYN has done lab tests with me taking Clomid to ensure I'm ovulating. My thyroid and other hormone levels were normal. DH has had an "excellent" SA per my OB/GYN. From what we've had checked so far there appears to be no reason why we shouldn't be conceiving. I've had a failed pregnancy @ 6 weeks in a previous relationship, but DH has never actively TTC.

Our next step will be an HSG if we don't get PG this month. BTW, I'm 34 and DH is 37. Please forgive me for asking about this as I realize it may be gross to some, but I'm really beginning to wonder if this could be our problem. If so, is it worth embarrassing myself in front of my doctor by bringing it up?

Blastoff9600 · 10-10-2008, 08:41 PM

Totally normal.
Read the book Taking Charge Of Your Fertility. It is a great book to help you and can even help your dr with any other testing he/she might need to do.

elainee · 10-11-2008, 04:05 AM

Hi Littlebo,

It's not gross at all, it's totally normal. And funnily enough I've wondered the same thing myself sometimes. But to put it another way, what comes up, must come down! Just hopefully enough stays up!

You probably do do this already, but what I do is place a pillow under my hips at the start, so that you are slightly tilted back, then when we're finished I make DH leaves very gently and then I stay there for about half an hour. They do say it's not necessary, but I prefer to. But there is always leakage afterwards.

Hopefully you get lucky this month xx

bunny9987 · 10-11-2008, 02:07 PM

my first 2 months of trying, nothing... the 3rd mo. i decided to try something different. I got all ready for bed, made sure i peed, and then we dtd. I stayed lying down, and went to sleep. I think i got up around 2am to pee (i did this for 3 days in a row) and some still leaked. but i got pregnant that month!!

littlebo · 10-16-2008, 07:26 PM

I appreciate all of your responses so much! I wanted to think it was totally normal that some has to leak back out, but with something as important as this why hold back asking questions...no matter how embarrassing they may be.

I'm going to try some of your suggestions, too. I've put a pillow up under my hips immediately after BMS, but never started out with it there. That's a good idea. I usually remain lying down 10-15 minutes afterward, but when its at night I will also try going on to bed.....can't hurt! I'm at the end of this month's fertile period and we had BMS pretty much every other day since 10/2! So, to be continued.....