Ok.. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/eek.gif"> well as you know I was wanting to have a child really bad, and I had a m/c <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">. Well I had my sisters little girl today as I always have her about 2 times a week... And I get her 4 year old son too.. The girl is 7 months, well.. FORGET IT.. I kept her over night for the first time, and I AM NOT READY to do this mom thing. They are so constant. I am glad, it was acutally kind of a test for me you know? I realize that I am not at that point in my life. As much as I love My little niece, she was hard. And I will do it again and again, but she is still constant. Just an update. lol
It is a little different with your own kids, but the degree of commitment is the same. Actually, it is much harder because you can't send them home to mommy and daddy afterwards! At least you have decided what is best for you right now - that is good. I have a two year old who is on the go NON stop. It literally wears you out........... every trip is difficult, even "simple" little stops at the grocery store can be exhausting. I don't know how old you are, but psychologists reccomend that the best age to have children is between the ages of 26-29.
Lol, call me a martyr, but something about having my daughter was actually gratifying, even though it is very, very HARD. It was nice not to be so selfish anymore, and despite the work, fatigue, frustration, and sometimes tears (from me) it makes me happy. By the way, I was 20 when I had her. Having my next one in May, and Im totally ready!
I am no kid expert ( I don't have any of my own ) but I do think that we go through the pregnancy process to prepare for a baby then the baby process to prepare for a toddler and the toddler process to prepare for a child. and so on... You might feel different if it were your child that you have raised and prepared for. Best of luck whatever you decide!!!!
Many many people have told me they are different when they are your own, and I am sure they are. But I just guess I want to be sure. I mean I take my sisters kids all the time, and my 4 year old nephew stays a lot.. But I never kept the baby for 2 days before.. and my oh my. LOL. Anyway.. Thanks gals for all the tips.
hey, don't get discourage. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
I'm serious though... I was 13 when my mother had my little brother.. and I was practically the mommy. I'd wake up in the middle of night and take care of him.. see if he is wet. it was hard.. and I had to wake up in the morning for school.. Him and I share this special bond even though he wasn't my child.. I babysit him.. and no I could not send him home. ANd he knew me and I knew him in all the baby way <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
And when he was a toddler, I'd fall asleep before him and he'd cover me up and kiss me, play with my hair. He was my best friend. I wouldn't give that up for anything. Even though I wanted so badly to have a little sister. But now he's the most precious thing in my life. Even when I came back from Europe for 7 months.. I have a husband.. he's still on top <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> He was so jealous when he met my husband. Now they are good friends.. they play together and things. Its all bonds <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Now my aunts got two brats.. oh my GOD .. I CAN"T TAKE IT.. if I had to babysit them.. I'd give up and leave them all alone in the house. They cry all the time.. they are just horrible. I don't have any bond with them. So its so cold b/w us. I just look after them. I can't stand these kids.. I won't even change their diapers. lol
Its very different with your child.. it depends on the connection. If you only had them for one night.. its nothing really. You'll be okay.
I want to be a mommy.. but full time work/school? I can't do that.. I'm gonna wait a bit..
22 maybe lol.. two more years.
have fun folks.. <p>[This message has been edited by Harudaha (edited 12-24-2001).]