Well,ladies, I'm back. I had a miscarriage. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/frown.gif">
Weds I went for my first OB appt. Weds night I started feeling crampy and was a little worried, but didn't think much of it. Thurs I woke up spotting a little. I hosted Thanksgiving at my house for the first time, and against my better judgement, DH and I made our announcement to the entire family (both sides). Friday I went for a quantitative hCG blood test, and the doc added that test to Wednesday's blood work too. Was supposed to hear back after yesterday's blood work came back, to be sure the numbers were doubling, but last night the doc called and said they decreased from Weds to Fri, which means that's it. Yesterday's bloodwork will be used only to prove that my hCG level is back to zero.
I did all my crying and carrying on yesterday and today I've decided that I'm lucky. . . at least I know I can get pregnant, and the doc said we can start trying again next month.
I've never been one to dwell on the negative. . . so I'll tell you my positives. I found out through this experience that I have the sweetest, most supportive hubby I could ask for. And I love my OB. He is extremely patient and doesn't sugar coat the bad news - just tells it how it is. And handles himself very well when a scared, first timer pages him at 6 am on Thanksgiving day!
So. . . I'll be around for a while. Somebody tell me some good news, quick!
CURIOUSCHICK,
I'm so sorry to hear of your miscarriage. I have never been pregnant, nor had a miscarriage so I can't feel your pain, but please know that my thoughts are with you. You are lucky to have such a supportive husband. I wish I could say something to make you feel better, but I am at a loss for words. Please just know that I'm thinking of you, and how terrible I feel for your loss.
I don't have any good news...AF paid me a visit today. There goes another month out the window. Hopefully some others have some good news to share with us.
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Hi Curiouschick
I am so sorry to hear about your lose. It breaks my heart. It is great that you have a terrific husband and my heart goes out to the both of you. I have never gone through this but I do not want to even imagine it. I know I disappointed and upset I get each month when AF shows or the pregnancy tests is negative. Hang in there and know that we are all thinking of you.
I have some relatively good news. I finally peaked last week on my fertility monitor so I am impatiently waiting to find out if I am pregnant. Also because of the monitor I found out that I O later in the month then I had thought so I was missing my window every month which makes me feel better about not being pregnant yet. It is like I am starting all over again.
Again I am sorry for your lose and if you need anything just let us know.
CURIOUSCHIC, I'm impressed with your attitude. It's wonderful and so full of love. I'm happy to hear that your doc says you can start trying again so soon! Keep your heart open and your chin up. Shay
Curious- I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. But amazed at your spirit. You give me strength in your words. I will be praying for you and your DH that next month will be yours <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
As for good news, you can ditto Lissie as we seem to have the exact same story <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
Hi ladies! I'm on vacation, but had to stop by work for a minute and decided to pop in here for a visit. I won't be back until Monday, so don't forget about me. I had ANOTHER friend call me last night to tell me she's pregnant. I'm so happy for her, but not happy for me. Oh well, I'll just go on spoiling all the babies I know until I have one of my own. Ya'll have a great week and I'll talk to you later.
hey curiouschick- I too had a miscarriage on Thanksgiving! but like you said, I am thankful for a wonderful husband. My levels went down from 299 to 200 in two days, I was all ready to worry about where the baby was, not if the baby was. I only have one tube open so etopic was a worry. This is my second miscarriage in this year, the good news for you is they say it rarely happends twice and the first pregnancy has about 40% odds it will not come to term. I had another one with the same problem, HCG levels stopped and fell in the 6-7 week range. The doc says to keep trying and get all these tests done. My trouble is no insurance! Hope your next one will be fine! Odds are in your favor! and anyway like we'd ever stop trying anyway! I'm sure everyone here wants a baby as much as I do. So as long as we share knowledge and dont give up, we'll all have our dreams come true, sappy I know! But thats what I have to keep telling myself! I know its hard, but it just means that we have the capacity to love. Every thing happens for a reason, and we never know the reason untill we move on to the next thing. Hope it helps to know your not the only one this has happened to. Take care! JennyDawn
So terribly sorry to hear about your sad news. I've never been through something like that, so don't really know how to express the sorrow I felt on reading your posts. My thoughts are with both of you. Hugs and more hugs,
Nela.
Girls I am so sorry and yet inspired by your words of strength. Keep looking up!! I know it isn't much, but if I was there I give you both hugs! I oo am worried of miscarrying and don't know when cramping is rounding and when it is serious. I pray that I will not find out the bad cramping.
Not to follow in JennyDawn's "sappy" footsteps, but I do have to tell you all that a lot of my strength at a sad time like this has come from you guys. There really is power in numbers and when we all communicate our thoughts and concerns as we do, we not only support each other through the sad times, but we give each other hope and encouragement that happy times are on their way!
I told one of my co-workers what happened to me over the weekend and she was surprised I wasn't more devastated - I didn't tell her that I have countless "cyber friends" who have helped me to realize that to be blessed with pregnancy is a gift, and that life is not a fairy tale, and it's not always gonna happen right away, and it's not always gonna be pretty. But we're all gonna get through it eventually and watch each other's hopes and dreams become reality.
Thanks HEAVEN-SENT, Lissie2414, shaylind, Jordansmom, jennydawn,MeganSmith78, nela, and lovelyme, for your words of encouragement on a day that has turned out to be not quite as bad as I would have expected. Every little <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif"> helps!!! I owe ya! <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/smile.gif">
CURIOUSCHICK
I am a newbie here and thus haven't posted much, but let me please add my sorrow over your unfortunate miscarrige. My heart goes out to you and here is a great big ((((((HUG)))))!
I am sending you Baby Dust, so you can get pregnant soon ^_^ i know it is very hard and i am not very good in comforting words. but heart goes out to you. and sending YOU LOTS OF baby dust . <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/angel.gif">
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<B>EDD- 4/09/2003 - </B> It's a BOY !
"I'm sorry" seems like such meaningless words and I know that it will never, ever be sufficient, but I am sorry, and I wish you both everything of the very best.
I must say that I am inspired by both of you. You gals have such positive attitudes. If it were me, I'm sure I would be a crumpled mess by now.
Anyway, your little babies are now angels in the garden of God.
Curious and Jenny, There is nothing that can be said to take away the pain and emptiness you feel, but a strong pair of arms can help you hold it all. We are here for you. The pain will get better. You didn't have much time to get to know your angels, but they are still with you in your heart. The love and support of my family, friends, and you guys helped me soooo much with my miscarriage. I am glad I can be here for you guys, I only wish the reason you needed our support was something different. <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love1.gif">
I just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you both.
I had a miscarriage just over a month ago and it was a NIGHTMARE. I am feeling much better now and feel the same as you Curioschick, at least I can GET pregnant and hopefully it will work fine next time. My DH has been BRILLIANT and our love has grown a lot stronger from this experience. We are going skiing first week of February and will be TTC straight after (and during! LOL)
I am sending baby dust to all TTC buddies
GOOD LUCK ALL
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love Carole-Anne <IMG SRC="http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love1.gif">
I'm new here but wanted to say that my thoughts are wiv you both at this time. They say that when we feel we have been dissappointed in something, that it is God setting us up for something even better.
God will give you the grace to smile through the pain, and they say miscarriages are natures way of preventing birth defect. you guys did nothing wrong, so please dont feel guilty and whether or not you gals are religious, I sincerely pray that in a very short time, you'll have good news to share with us all.
The closenes on this site never ceases to amaze me and it's nice to have a place where we can be open. I'm not yet ready to have kids as I am not in a relationship at the moment, but when I do, you gys will be the first to know.
love u all
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