Talking to a loved one about their weight - Weight Loss Message Board

Viktorria · 08-05-2008, 04:52 PM

Hi,

I've been trying to talk to my husband about losing some weight - he's about 40 lbs overweight. Its not a vanity issue, I'm just really concerned for his health.

How can I get him to agree to diet/exercise without making him feel bad? I love him very much and want him to be healthy.

Any advice is appreciated.

Thank you

auntjudyg · 08-06-2008, 08:29 AM

How about just starting some activity subtly, with no "discussion". Like, hey let's go for a walk (or whatever)? until it becomes habit.

Overeating, I presume, is taking place at work/lunch? Is he eating out with colleagues, or what?

szqsk8 · 08-06-2008, 06:56 PM

Telling someone who has excess weight that they are "fat" is a waste of time. Does everyone think that someone who is fat or obese suddenly woke up one day and thought "oh my God, I am fat!". Hell no. It's the first thing you think about when you get up and the last thing you think about when you lay your head on your pillow.

Unfortunately, it's like anything else. If the person doesn't want to do it for themselves it won't happen. Nobody can guilt someone into quitting drinking, drugs, overeating, etc.

You could take the approach of changing the diet in your house subtly, such as a low-glycemic diet and trying to get your hubby to take a walk with you at night after dinner, etc. If they think you are nagging, they will tune out!