ok soooo... my mom just resently got gastric bypass surgery and she has been loosing alot of weight and I am really happy for her, honestly. and she has been going to the gym and loosing even more weight that way too. I try to go to the gym and work out with her but sometimes I have too much homework so i cant go. and even when I do go i dont loose that much weight and before my mom got the surgery she was i think up to almost three hundred pounds and now she is almost under two hundred and again thats great for her but I am 192 and so she's really close to my weight and now she sometimes barrows my lose shirts but she still losing weight so she will be able to fit into my tight shirts soon. im still really happy for her but I really dont want to weigh more than my mom, whom I used to sometimes think (i feel really bad bout this) I hope i dont end up that big. I feel really bad cuz my mom was worried bout this from the start and so I dont want her to feel worse.
Sweetie, don't feel bad. It's hard enough to be a teenager and now your mom is changing and this makes things different. Change is always hard, and as a teen you have youth on your side. If your mom losing weight is making you feel self concious, as it obviously is, then I say follow her lead. It sound like you have already adopted some good habits, like going to the gym. Keep it up and on the days you can't make, try to do a little something at home even it is just for 5 or 10 minutes at a time. Take a break from your homework and do some exercises, get your heart pumping. Also make sure you eat a healthy diet too. When you can, pamper yourself, get your nails done, hang out with your friends,whatever you like. Taking care of yourself will help you feel better about yourself and take some of the focus off your mom. Also try talking to your mom about her borrowing you shirts. A woman old enough to have a teenage daughter shouldn't be wearing clothes from the juniors section, no matter how great she looks. Maybe you could go with her to help her shop for some new clothes for herself-maybe some for you too?
Hey babe, I can completely understand how you feel! Being happy for someone yet almost - dare I say - resentful , all part of being human I guess.
I agreee with 'niknak', you are taking the right steps by wanting to do something about it, but rather than focusing on the negative side of things, turn it around and see the positve. i.e. you and your mum are both going to be so much healthier and happier (and live longer!) use your mums achievments to motivate you - chat to her about it and you can work together to lose the weight. I beleive that a good healthy diet is the key - you can do all the exercise in the world but if its the wrong thing going in it'll all be in vain.
Keep your chin up sweety, where theres a will theres a way - and if you need to chat we're all here!
p.s. I have a couple of friends doing a healthy weight loss plan that seems to be working! i'll try and find out what it i if you're interested...
I completely understand! I think many of us have felt this way even when we are happy for the other person. If anything, you can let this be good motivation. That's what I usually do! If I feel like a friend of mine is doing really, really well when I'm trying to get into shape, it motivates me to keep it up. I'm a little bit of a competitive person (in a good way!) so this works for me. You and your mom can even give each other good tips.
Don't let your homework discourage you. As a student, your work is very important and you can't help it. Just focus on doing well with your homework and just work out when you can. If you can't go as often as you like, it's okay! Just do whatever you can. I usually just try to eat a little healthier if I can't work out much. Little things like drinking water instead of sodas or juice, eating fruit instead of other sweets, etc. can make a big difference in the long run. I always give myself at least a little bit of treats though... depriving yourself doesn't work for the long run! When I was losing weight, I had one day a week where I'd eat whatever foods I wanted, and I ate a very healthy, clean diet the rest of the week. It worked great and I'm now at my goal weight.
thank you to every one this has been alot of help. I did, unforturnately, find out that my mom is in fact the same weight as me. but she hasnt asked for awhile to borrow my shirts and i think it might be because of a talk we had. I chose my friends and I dont know why but the friends I happened to choose are all smaller than me, even the guys I choose to like are smaller than me as well. so it doesnt really help ther issue that when I look at my pictures, im always the big girl.. so... yea thanx again.