This is kind of long, but please read it.
My mom is 55, 5'2" and over 250 lbs. I'm only 16 and my mom is already 55 and over-weight. I'm afraid of losing her, so I always remind her to start eating healthful foods and leading a healthy lifestyle, but she just won't change. I hear her complain about her back and knees hurting, and I can't help but worry and get depressed that I won't be able to do things with her in a year or two. It's too early for her knees and joints to hurt!
She always has excuses like "I'm too old to lose weight," or "If I lose weight, I'll have extra skin," and "I don't have time; I'm too tired" and it irritates
me. I showed her this article on an insanely obese (for her height) woman around 400 lbs. and how she lost weight and became a size 8. I told her that it could be done because the woman was in her 40's when she lost the weight—that my mom could still lose hers, too.
I've tried all tactics into getting her to exercise. I told her the benefits of becoming skinny—both the health benefits and aesthetic benefits—but it doesn't seem to interest her at all. I told her once that she's old already, and I told her that I wanted her to live long; that I wanted her to attend my wedding, and live long enough to see any potential grandchildren... all she did was promise. She never did anything.
Up until now, my brother and I still continue to coax her into exercising: "C'mon, mom. Exercise, please? Even if you just walk around the village for an hour; we'll go with you." And my brother invites my mom to go to the gym with him, but she won't go. She even has a lifetime membership with some slimming world thing, but she won't use it.
I once got annoyed and asked her "With dad gone, what'll happen if you suddenly die?! So, you'd just leave us? Why won't you take care of yourself more? Why won't you put any effort into exercising?"
She replied with "You think I don't know that? That's why I always pray to God that He may let me live long." I'm, like, "Mom! Ever heard of the saying 'God helps those who help themselves'?"
Then I tried telling her "If you don't want to do it for yourself, at least do it for us," but she doesn't show any signs of wanting to exercise. I also told her that, at the very least, she should see a dietitian.
I get so annoyed! I want her to live long, and here she is, wasting all my efforts away! I've been doing this since she was 49, but she's so hard-headed and stubborn and... ugh.
I get so mad and sad and worried and frustrated and lost and I just don't know what to do anymore.
Thanks for reading this super long thing :'D