Re: BMI ~ 23 but want to drop weight desperately
Hey, I understand your desire to slim down despite being at a normal bmi---everyones' body is different and bmi is only a very approximate measure of body size. To give an example, someone can have an overweight bmi even if their extra mass can be attributed to muscle. Likewise, someone can have a normal or even underweight bmi but don't appear particularly thin due to their lack of muscle. What I'm trying to say is that body composition (the ratio of fat to muscle) can totally change your appearance and body composition is also something that a bmi can't account for.
okay, so with that said, the reason you can't get a doctor to prescribe you a medication is because they probably see that as an extreme measure---something you don't need given you are in a normal weight range for your height. Also just incase you were wondering, the reason people say "smoking makes you lose weight" is only because nicotine apparently curbs your appetite, not because it actually reduced your weight.
You did indicate that you have a higher calorie intake than you think is normal and that you feel hungry a lot. People who eat often generally tend to feel hungry more often as well because they have trained their bodies to process food quickly in time for their next meal. Considering your higher than normal caloric intake has not led to weight gain it is also very likely you have an efficient metabolism. That being said, you may be stuck on a 'weight plateau' due to these larger portions.
Sizing your meals down gradually while maintaining the amount of physical activity will result in a greater caloric deficit and therefore you should lose the weight you want to. Another suggestion is to also look at the type of foods you are eating---increasing your protin intake results in muscle growth, and muscles burn more calories than fat. Therefore, you could theoretically maintain your caloric intake but burn more calories per work out and still lose weight.
I hope something in here will be useful to you. Good luck!