jessilynn68

OK - first off, you have to relax. Nothing will work here if you aren't. Second, get a mirror, and look at the whole vaginal area. You will see your "lips", or labia majora (the outer ones) and labia minora (the inner ones). Also if you open your legs, you will the the urinary opening, at the top of the labia, and the vaginal opening (that's the bigger hole). Then you see the perinium, which is the little skin between the vaginal opening, and the anus. The tampon goes in the vaginal opening. When you are first trying to use tampons, it helps to stand and put one leg on the toilet to open things up a little, so to speak. Use a little vaseline on the tip if you want - it can help slide it in. No need to goop it all up - a little dab will work.

As far as the clitoris goes, it is under a little hood at the top of the lips, above the urinary opening. You might not really see it well as it is covered. Try touching around there - you will definitely feel when you find it. You might get little jolts or something similiar. That's normal.

I have never seen a really good site for this, or I would post it. But relax - all this is normal, and how you are feeling is normal.