Barb, I have to tell you, I was going down that same path as yours (I'm 48), my doc told me my bladder was loose/weak where I might need the surgery too as it was coming down.
In my desperation, I bought this vaginal exerciser to see if that would help, at least so I would stop leaking because I could see myself getting worse.
Wouldn't you know it? The contraption worked. I had been using it religiously for a couple of months and my bladder moved up, I wasn't leaking, and the topper was, I was having mulitiple orgasms and my hubby noticed I was tighter on the very first day I used it.
I know it's been downplayed by gynos, the "medical" community, but there is a reason why. They need to do surgeries because if they recommend this vaginal exerciser, it doesn't make them any more money.
It's called the Kegelmaster 2000 and I'm not lying, when I saw my gyno about 6 months after we talked about surgery, her eyes bugged out and couldn't believe that this was the same vagina/bladder she was talking about surgery for. She gave me a clean bill of health, complimented me on my muscle tone and said I could put a 20 year old with no kids to shame, and the best part, was I could laugh, workout, do anything and not a drop of leakage. Oh, AND the orgasms!!!! Awesome.
You can do a search for it under Kegelmaster 2000.
There's also an article called (again, look it up online) The B a s tardization of Dr. Kegel's exercises (I think that's the full title)if you care to read more on the subject. Anyway, it goes on to say how the medical community has in a dastardly way, b a s t ardized Dr. Kegel's theories and research because his whole premise about doing kegels is with an assisting device inserted into the vagina. None of that "just squeeze down there" crap.
Sometimes you have to color outside the lines. The medical community is not the be all and know all of everything.
Good luck to you and I think it's worth a shot for you. A gyno's office visit costs more than the KM2000.
[This message has been edited by Ladee (edited 10-24-2003).]