an eating disorder-be real with me - Women's Health Message Board

daniela · 02-16-2004, 05:57 PM

I realize that there is an eating disorder board and I have been there and discussed things with the women that have simiolar issues. The only problem with sharing the problem you have with someone else who has it is that you get a lot of, " I understand "s, "I know exacetly how you feel "s, and not enough, " get your **** together and start making an effort to get better. " Im not bashing the site it is wonderful and helpful but I hoping anyone of you could tell me few things you might tell a friend or a loved one if they had an eating disorder. I had anorexia, and now I binge and purge. Its one of the most degrading, self depricating, and painful things to have to live with. And I dont want to live with it. So if anyone could say a few words that would be great. I just need someone to be real with me. It so hard for the poeple that love me to be real like that when the majority of the time they are worrying and feel sorry because of the pain im experiencing. Ill take any words, just be real and up front. Id appreciate it

Take care All
Thanks for listening

moonlitday · 02-16-2004, 06:29 PM

I do understand what you're going through. I myself am midly aneroexic (I eat but only what I have to to keep my tummy from complaining). I have a paranoia of becoming fat. I do realize I am a small person, but the fear can be overwhelming. Honestly, you are the only one who can make you better. You have to want to be better. You are doing more damage than good to your body by being bulemic; but I bet you already know that.

I hope and pray that you can find the strength and determination inside yourself to make yourself better. Even if it's just little steps at a time...progress is still progress (ex. telling yourself that for x amount of days I will keep say 1 meal fully down). I currently am making progress by having 1 good solid real meal a day. It helps that I have a loving boyfriend who loves to cook for me

Also think on what is behind your disorder. What causes you to feel that you must do this to yourself. Finding out the cause is the first step in finding your way toward recovery.

Ash16 · 02-16-2004, 06:32 PM

I am in "remission" for an eating disorder myself. I was an anorexic-bulimic. I am not going to tell you right off the bat that "i understand how u feel" because we all feel different. But what i can tell you is that no one can try to make you get better. YOU have to do it yourself. It's on of the hardest things i ever had to do. And it will be hard for you too. If anyone tries to tell you different, then they have never experienced a real eating disorder. MAKE yourself go into an intensive therapy eating disorder clinic. That was the best thing i ever did for myself. I was in there for about 3 months... and then i had house calls made to me atleast 2 times/week... and i had 4 weigh in's (naked) every week to make sure i was not falling back into the habit. I did a few times.... and had to go for more therapy... but it has been well worth it. This is something YOU have to want to do or you will never fully recover. I don't know if any of this was what you wanted to hear... but you need to hear it. I didn't want to hear it until one day i fainted and ended up in the hospital. Then i realized that i needed help. And now i see that my younger cousin is showing signs of anorexia/bulimia... but she has yet to admit it. And i will tell her the same thing i am telling you. I have a poem that i wrote about my eating disorder... i wrote it after i realized that i needed help... it would really make you think. Are we allowd to post an original poem on here? O well... I hope you realize that what you're doing to yourself isn't worth it before it is too late... it was almost too late for me...

jojo64 · 02-17-2004, 12:00 PM

You want someone to be real with you? Here is reality: You are killing yourself in a very slow and painful way!!!

Lotuslilgrl · 02-17-2004, 12:34 PM

that's easy.
I had bulimia/anorexia 5 years ago. I sought out help though. I saw a doctor and he helped me get through it. It wasn't easy, i had to do things that I feared. That's the big one. You have to take the chance and do something you fear, like eating normal, and slowly you WILL get over it. In laymans terms, eating disorders are a phase. I wanted to be "smaller", cause i felt i was in everyones way. Self esteem issues etc..... It's not the food, (i hope u realize that, that is NOT the problem) You must realize WHY first, before you can help yourself. YOu want perfection and control in your life and you are willing to risk your life for the impossible, think about it that way. How old are you? I'm assuming young, cause if you have this being in your mid thirties or late 20's it's time to wake up and smell the coffee, and get on with your life.
and that's reality