pregnancy... help please? - Women's Health Message Board

han1239 · 06-21-2007, 12:17 AM

Hi...
I have a few questions... but it might take a while to explain the whole situation.

So basically... Guy 2 lives in another country. and a few friends and my sister were all trying to convince me that all I am to him is a 'ticket out of his country and into mine' and that I shouldn't bother with him. I ignored it for a long time, but it got to me after a while. I slept with Guy 1 a week before seeing him, to try to get my mind off him. But the whole time with Guy 1 all I could think of was Guy 2. So I made him 'stop' and he didn't get to orgasm. I then saw Guy 2 for two weeks....

This is a rough timeline...

May 19 - Slept with Guy 1. No Condom. But he also didn't orgasm.
May 26th - Started sleeping with Guy 2 using condoms.
May 29thish - Continued sleeping with Guy 2. No condoms. Orgasming "outside".
June 1stish - Continued sleeping with Guy 2. No condoms. Orgasming "Inside".
June 8thish - Period began.
June 21st - Pregnancy test. Negative.

Would a negative pregnancy now, rule out both guys?
OR if I did another pregnancy test in a few weeks, could it turn out positive to the second guy?
and if, in a few weeks I did do a positive test, would it definately be the second guy, or could it possibly be the first?
and finally, Is this enough information? lol.
thank you.

jmcummins3 · 06-21-2007, 01:00 AM

I would first of all have to say that the likelihood of your being pregnant after getting your period and a negative pregnancy test almost 2 weeks after your period is very slim. However, if you are in fact pregnant, most likely, based on your dates, it would be guy 2's, assuming you have a normal 28-day cycle and ovulate around day 14 of your cycle. BTW, there are SEVERAL women on the pregnancy board who got pregnant by using the "pull-out" method, which is ineffective birth control. If you are not in a position to welcome a pregnancy, please consider more effective birth control.

han1239 · 06-21-2007, 01:28 AM

i guess i should have added that i am very open to welcoming a pregnancy if the father was infact Guy 2. I just don't want to find out I am pregnant with confusion of who the father is.

the period i had wasn't really regular either. it was extremely light for me and didn't last many days.

jmcummins3 · 06-21-2007, 01:36 AM

If you think you might be pregnant, you can go to your doctor and get a blood test to find out for sure. Is your cycle a normal 28-day cycle? If so, it's more likely that guy 2 is the father if you got pregnant during the cycle you described here.

han1239 · 06-21-2007, 02:02 AM

its generally pretty regular.

i had just started taking the pill when i was with Guy 1. But wasnt on it long enough for it to actually work. and I missed it once or twice the following weeks while i was away. my period was a little bit late but i would blame that on the pill stuffing around my body or whatever.

i cant have a child if it is Guy 1's because he isn't a good person. i have found out he tends to sleep around and see many girls at one time... and he does drugs and drinks alot.. and gambles (promising type, i know).
but Guy 2 is the complete opposite. a truely caring person... and just wonderful in everyway...

Guy 1 is half caucasian half italian
Guy 2 is an Islander...

so obviously if it did turn out i was pregnant it would be obvious who the father was at birth... but i can't risk that... Guy 2 is my partner now... and i couldn't possibly go having Guy 1s child.
argh. its so confusing and worrying.
i have another pregnancy test so i will take it in a couple of weeks. closer to when my period will be due again.