When I get a compliment on my outfit, makeup, skin, hair-I say thank you but automatically follow up with a comment like: oh, but I feel like a balloon, the shirt accentuates my chub arms-or, on my skin--yeah, but you can't see all the black heads and acne. See the picture? I am unable to just take a nice compliment without bringing the attention to a negative aspect of myself.
IS this low-self esteem???
No it isn't low self esteem...it is pretty common for humans to downplay themselves. It is hard to take compliments without sounding arrogant. My first reaction to someone complimenting me is to return the compliment...something like 'oh and your hair looks so nice' or something I notice about the other person...or the child they have with them or whatever.
thank you all-Maybe a little mixture of self esteem issues and a bad habit. I will try to be more conscious of my reaction to compliments. I wonder if it is me downplaying the comment or if I am trying to get even more compliments out of it??? So, they might say" oh you are not chubby!" boosting that self esteem a little-
I think I just need to learn how to take and ACCEPT a compliment. I may need to do a little soul searching too. I am happy to see different sides of what this could be. Makes it much more gray and not so black and white....
Thank you
