I'm here posting to you all hoping that someone could give me a bit of advice. Or at least a reassurance.
I've been spotting now for about two and a half weeks. I say spotting, because it's not enough to be counted as a period in my opinion (nor is it the right colour, it has more of a brown tinge than a blood colour) but yet it's enough to have to wear a panty liner. I have no other symptoms with it, no sore breasts, no cramps, no anything. This is the longest time I've had spotting like this.
I know that spotting on its own is normal. But I have other concerns about my female health and it does worry me when all put together.
I have really irregular periods, I sometimes get them twice a month, sometimes I wont get them for months, sometimes I get really long ones, sometimes really heavy and painful ones. It varies. I went to the Dr's last year to treat a long period (I was only my 30th day when I saw the GP) and they took a blood test and apparently the possibility of polycystic ovarian syndrome was present. So off I went to the gyno to have a pelvic ultrasound, which came back normal. I didn't have the internal examination due to the fact of my virginity (ethical issues and the like).
I can't go on the regular pill because I suffer from severe migraines on occasion. I have been on Primolut once (a short course to stop the prolonged bleeding mentioned above) but for no more than about a week. So currently I'm not taking any contraceptives.
I also have now been with my boyfriend for 15 months, and we have recently started to explore the possibility of us both losing our virginity together. We have tried now half a dozen times and I can't go through with it because of the pain. I pride myself on having a fairly good pain tolerance, but in this situation it has been way too intense and I've told him to stop. I know this is more of a sexual health issue but I wanted to include all info I can about myself...
Also - I'm 19 years old. And another thing - I have a really low sex drive. I barely ever feel horny (I'm sorry if that's a crude phrase). I don't know how to explain it any other way. I've been told, that as a young person, I should be right out there and wanting to try new things like that and experience the 'greatness' of sex and sexual feelings. But I've never really had much of that rip-off-my-clothes now kind of passion through me. Granted, it does happen, but very, very rarely.
My mum has had quite a number of gyno-related health issues. To start off with she's got an underactive thyroid (not gyno I know, but hormone related), and several years ago a smear test came back abnormal so she went through all of the processes and just last year she had a full hysterectomy. Apparently one of her ovaries was 'dead' too, I think she actually used the term 'flat'... She has also told me about how she has a tilted uterus or something along those lines? I'm really not sure of the terminology there but the Dr's really don't like doing smear tests on her, apparently, because of the angle..?
I'm starting to feel a bit like people think I'm a hypochondriac hence why I'm posting here and haven't made an appointment with my GP. I went to them just recently and told them about my issues with sex and the pain I get with penetration, and they sent me away with a list of things to try and 'stretch' myself but so far they haven't made any difference. They also don't seem to be too concerned about my irregularities in menstruation, but it's really annoying me, because I can get caught out with it especially when I have no idea of a date I'm expecting it, and half the time I don't get symptoms until after the bleeding starts. It can get pretty awkward. The Dr's have said it's because I'm thin - I'm probably about 5'6'' and about 105 pounds?
It's just getting frustrating because personally - I don't think things in my body are normal. Things don't feel right, and as a young person, when I think of all my friends and their 'normalness' I feel pretty broken.
Help please? What might be the reason for me spotting this long without a period?
(I am so sorry for the large post - the more I thought, the more I typed. It's felt really good putting it all down though. Very therapeutic.)