Hi i found this site and thought somebody might probably b able to help me. I think i just got my period for the first time today but i dont know what to do or where to go to. I live alone with my dad and three older brothers so i really dnt. have anyone to go to. Im really embarrased to talk to my dad about this. Can anybody please tell me what to do. I really dont know much about this. Ive been using toilet paper, ALOT of toilet paper in order not 2stain. Ive tooken already about 10 showers, thrown away 6 underwears and it just wont stop. Im really nervous and scared, somebody please give me some advice as soon as possible. what do i need to buy? how do they work? how do i make the cramps stop? Is there some special care or diet i need to do? PLEASE HELP!
Talk to your female teacher , a close female relative or your best friend mom. I remember my first period, it was scary and my older sister made me feel dirty. She made it sound like it was my fault. That was 35 years ago and I still remember the way she made me feel. I think tissue is okay until you get you some female products like Kotex or tampons. I don't know if you are ready for Tampons yet.
Things will settle down and you'll catch on once you get the needed sanitary products. Take care.
Go to a drugstore, buy some pads. I prefer the ones "with wings", but any will do. You can buy a few different brands and decide what you like, how thick you need, etc. Usually a "maxi" is for heavy flow, and a "panti liner" is for when it's almost over.
The pad has adhesive on the bottom, and it sticks to your underwear. The adhesive is covered with wax paper to keep it from sticking to itself. Just unroll the pad, pull off the paper, and stick it on. Try to center it on the spot where you stain.
The cramps? No special diet, but overeating can make them worse. A heating pad or some Tylenol or Advil will probably help.
This period should last several days. After this, you might get another one next month, or it might take up to a year to get your second period. It might take until your late teens to start getting them regularly, or you might be like clockwork from day one.
Congratulations on becoming a woman. Don't be scared.
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THANK YOU! I didnt go to school today because i was scared and felt really uncomfortable. How long will i be like this? how do I tell my dad i need to go to a drugstore, I REALLy dont want to talk to him about this. Is there anything i could use or make in my house in order not to have to use sanitary napkins? The toilet paper isn't really helping. I cut up some old t-shirts and using that, I reallt dont know how to talk to my dad about this. Its really embarrasing.
Rags or a washcloth or piece of a cloth towel should work well. That's what women used for hundreds of years before maxi-pads were invented!
Just say, "Dad, I need to go to the store. No, I really need to go to the store." A grocery, supermarket, or Walmart should also carry them. I guarantee your dad knows what menstruation is, although he might not have realized you were getting to that age. Sometimes Dads don't want to admit we're growing up.
I also suggest you get a book such as "What's happening to my body for girls," "period" or another book about puberty and women's health aimed at teen and preteen girls. Also, if you have a grandmother or aunt somewhere you feel close to, or even your school nurse, would probably be able to talk to you about it.
Like Jane said, buy some pads. Ask in the drugstore and they will tell you. They sell them at all grocery stores and all drug stores. Open the package and pull off the adhesive part. You then attach the pad to your panty. Every few hours you change the pad, depending how strong your flow is.
I understand that you feel embarrassed to tell your dad. In my family we didn't discuss those things and I didn't even tell my mother.