Okay this will be the first time you've heard this one I'm sure.
I was having sex with a girl and I hadn't had sex or masturbated for a week or two and when I first was inside her I had one or two contractions as I was trying to pull out, but instead of pulling all the way out I flexed my PC muscle to stop the contractions and ejaculation.
I still felt very hard and kept going for 20min or so. I don't know how much I came but I'm sure I did. Afterwards she told me she can't do plan B because she has high blood pressure.
She said she didn't think I got her pregnant but I think she doesn't know what she's talking about.
I really care about this girl and I never wanted to do anything that would hurt or inconvience her in any way.
I feel horrible about it and can't sleep. It's totally my fault to do something so immature and stupid. I just want to know how likely it is that she's pregnant and how I can fix it of she is.
I really don't want her to have to get an abortion but I fear that's what it's going to come down too.
God I hope someone can identify with my stupidity and put my mind at ease.
You don't mention how old you both are but if you were inside of her for 20+ min without a condom then of course she can be pregnant what on earth were you thinkin? For one thing 20 min is a long time it is no wonder she survived that whole episode...and what was plan A? because plan B was not so good if she had a heart condition...not to mention that length of time is painful for her after awhile. Unless she is menopausal she of course could be pregnant.
She's 25 and I'm 22. I'm sure it was closer to 10min as she mention she was getting raw and asked why I hadn't came. I realized that when I couldn't climax that I had already gone all the way. It just feels different when you clench your PC muscle. That's why I wasn't sure.
She's young fit and gorgeous I had absolutely no idea she had high blood pressure. I wasn't thinking then but I sure as hell am now and it's eating away at me. It's just one more thing and I'm so sorry for her and for me.
Unless you two are married there is no reason for you not to wear a condom...I'm not really understanding how you thought she couldn't get pregnant...not to mention you both can be transferring diseases back and forth. And also no reason to be pumping in and out for that length of time it would make anyone raw and I am sure she was getting a bit bored and sore and isn't going to want it for a while until she heals up. It doesn't matter if she has a blood pressure problem or not she shouldn't have to tell every guy she sleeps with her medical history. The point is that she wants you to stop taking so long. Good luck in the future.
Well, I'm not going to give you a hard time about it. You have learned a very valuable lesson, whether she is pregnant or not. And being pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen......go check out the herpes or hiv or hepititis boards......scary stuff. Having said that, when you have sex during the fertile period, which is normally about a 5 day window when you include the two days before ovulation and the 1 day after, you still only have a 25% chance of conception. Any other time of the month and it's much less likely. And unless conception is something you are trying to do, most women arent aware of when they are in their fertile period or not. So the best thing you can do is sit and wait. As far as how do you "fix" it if she should happen to be pregnant, you be a man, stand by her decisions because she is the one who has to carry this child, you grow up and do what ever you can to assist her. That's how you "fix" it. There is no miracle that makes it all go away. Oh sure, there are procedures.......but read about the emotional trama that this causes. She will still carry this child for the rest of her life whether she has it, doesnt, or gives it up for adoption. So you NEED to be there for her. Don't push at her for something that you want. Take it like a man. And best case scenario, she wont be, and you have make a promise to yourself that you wont repeat the same mistakes. Hope that helps you.
Melissa
Well, I'm not going to give you a hard time about it. You have learned a very valuable lesson, whether she is pregnant or not. And being pregnant is not the worst thing that can happen......go check out the herpes or hiv or hepititis boards......scary stuff. Having said that, when you have sex during the fertile period, which is normally about a 5 day window when you include the two days before ovulation and the 1 day after, you still only have a 25% chance of conception. Any other time of the month and it's much less likely. And unless conception is something you are trying to do, most women arent aware of when they are in their fertile period or not. So the best thing you can do is sit and wait. As far as how do you "fix" it if she should happen to be pregnant, you be a man, stand by her decisions because she is the one who has to carry this child, you grow up and do what ever you can to assist her. That's how you "fix" it. There is no miracle that makes it all go away. Oh sure, there are procedures.......but read about the emotional trama that this causes. She will still carry this child for the rest of her life whether she has it, doesnt, or gives it up for adoption. So you NEED to be there for her. Don't push at her for something that you want. Take it like a man. And best case scenario, she wont be, and you have make a promise to yourself that you wont repeat the same mistakes. Hope that helps you.
Melissa
Thank you so much for your reply. I didn't mean to say fix like that. I just ment how could I make it okay for her. So that nothing bad would happen. Thank you. Thank you.
