Sounds like you definitely need a second opinion! I'm sorry you are going through this. Don't let the surgeon push you around though, you are not his employee and you don't have to take that. Not saying he isn't a good doctor but sometimes they tend to get desensitized and don't realize how the patient might feel. Surgery is always a big deal and nothing to be pushed into. Research the different possibilities/complications/treatments of your condition. If the doctor wont listen to your concerns, find one that will
As for the surgery...laparascopic are much less invasive than open procedures. Therefore, easier recovery, shorter time under anesthesia, and overall just an easier surgery. Surgeon's cannot tell you 100% how it will turn out but complications with anesthesia rarely happen. Still scary though! I would just research and then research some more! One more question what exactly was the name of procedure he was wanting to do? I'm sorry I couldn't give you more information but maybe I will know more if I know the name of the surgery
Hope this helped a little though!