| | Why can't I be free from Bacterial Vaginosis???
My name is Monica. I have struggled with BV for years. It took years to finally get it under control. When I realized I had a problem I connected it to sex. As long as my partner was not pulling out, his semen (I believe) is what caused me to get BV. Whenever I did not allow him to "not pull out", I didn't get BV. Okay, here's the twist: I didn't have sex for a year and I'll tell you, I had no issues. I was as clean as a whistle. Yay!!! What a huge self-esteem booster that was for me! Then when I finally had sex again, I thought, oh no, here we go again with the BV. Only, I did not get BV AND I think it's because he wasn't cheating on me. I know it may sound a little strange but I had suspected cheating in my past relationship and I believe that is why I kept getting BV after sex. My body is sensitive and does not like to share fluids if you know what I mean. For the first 6 months of having sex with my new man, I did not get BV. We moved to another state and he got wild and started to cheat on me. Low and behold, I got BV. Ever since I got it again, I have struggled with it. I got it under control again while not having sex, again for a year. Now I am sexually active, again, and each time my fiance and I make love, immediately I see a difference and I know I have BV. Then I have to call my doctor for another script. I have taken Flagyl, Metrogel and the last thing was one that begins with the letter "T" but I can't remember the name of it right now. That one worked like a charm. Right after me made love and I got it again. My doctor told me today that I must take metrogel twice a week for three months to prevent reoccurances. Can anyone relate to my situation and do you think this will work? I don't want to stop making love with my fiance. I am not sure why I keep getting BV in this case. I haven't told him that I keep getting BV. In fact, I haven't even told him that I got it in the first place. He works out of state and he's away from home for a couple of weeks at a time. I always have time to take my medicine and get better before we make love again. But it never fails...we make love and I get BV. I kind of want to ask him if he's cheating but I don't think he is and I don't want him to think I'm insecure, because I am not. Honestly, I am afraid that if I tell him he'll want to stop making love. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can approach him about it and suggest to him that we use condoms?