Posted by Maggie C.
on July 02, 2000 at 21:13:16:
In Reply to: coping, planning posted by holly on June 28, 2000 at 01:01:44:
: my grandfather (80) was diagnosed w/ cancer a month ago and he has a massive tumor in one of his lungs and possibly something else developing. he also has diabetes and has been very out of it lately. the hospital has wanted to drag him back and forth early in the morning for radiation treatments <--- it's a really long drive. and he can't handle it. today, we found out he has three months to live, tops without the radiation treatment b/c hauling him back and forth to the hospital is too stressfull. so now my mother is talking about just taking him home and basically, letting him die there w/o getting the treatments. i was wondering if you guys had any advice on this? i'm only sixteen. are the radiation treatments really pointless at this state? or what's the deal with a..uh, hospus or whatever? i'm confused. please reply!
Holli, I know just how hard this is on you. I am going through the same thing with my mother. She made the choice to have no treatment from the beginning (4-5-2000). She is leaving us
very rapidly. I had thought we might have at least four months with her but it doesn't look that way. Just be sure to let your grandfather know how much you love him and that you will miss
him. Be there if he needs just a hug or whatever. My prayers and with you and your mom at this time. May God help you to face what lays ahead. If you would like to write me I have included my
email. Just click on my name and it should give it to you. LOVE and HUGS Maggie
P.S. My mother is 74 years old with small cell lung cancer.