Posted by Maggie C.
on July 02, 2000 at 22:21:22:
In Reply to: I like to be prepared for the worst. posted by Darina on June 23, 2000 at 13:02:58:
: On May 11, 2000 my husband found out he has lung cancer. He is 54 and does not want to go through the Chemo, which the doctor said would not cure him anyway. It would only prolong his life a little more. I respect his decision however hard that will be for me. He began having a severe cough before the cancer diagnosis and had gotten worse. Right now he tires very easily and his appetite is not good. We have Hospice and the nurse comes ones a week checking pulse and blood pressure(no help). His doctors would give us only 2-6 months time limit without treatment. I like to be prepared for the worst. I was hoping some of you that have experienced this terrible loss could help me. What should I expect? Is there anything I should do? I guess I just needed someone else to hear theirs story. I know there is nothing left to do but pray and hope that he won't have to suffer too much or to long. If anyone has any experiences to share, I would appreciate it. Thanks
Darina, I am going through the same thing with my mother who was dx 4-5-2000 with sclc. (Mom is 74) She has chosen not to take treatments. This was just 3 short months ago and mom is going very rapidly. She eats very little and sleeps most of the time. I have been "fighting" with Hospice to get the pain meds she needs. I just wanted to let you know your husband has the right to have his choice of doctors, even if it's his regular MD, and you can demand more pain meds. It may be a battle to get what he needs but don't give up. My heart goes out to you and your husband. You have a long road ahead of you Darina. It is the single most hardest thing I have ever done in my life. It is very stressful to watch your loved one die like this. If you ever need to just talk I have included my email, which you can get by clicking on my name at the top of my response. I am not here very often where my computer is since I stay with mom most of the time. But I do check my mail at least once a week when one
of my siblings comes to stay with mom, like today. Take care of yourself, and try to get plenty of rest, you will need it all to soon. May God bless you and give you strength. My prayers will be with you both. LOVE and HUGS Maggie C.