Posted by Adrien
on August 25, 2000 at 03:31:52:
In Reply to: Final Stage Cancer Question( My Dad 57 yrs. old) posted by Bethany on August 04, 2000 at 21:44:15:
My heart goes out to you. Just today my stepfather was diagnosed with esophygeal cancer. He is awaiting further tests on Monday of next week to see what stage it is in.
I am so sorry for both of us. My stepfather is a wonderful man and God gave me this father to replace my real father who died of bone cancer. Now my fear is watching my wonderful stepfather go through the same thing my father did. And also the effect that my father's death had on us, and the terrible ordeal will maybe now be repeated.
I can only pray that if God wishes to take him he will take him very fast and not let him suffer too long like my father did.
The main thing you can do is to keep your father comfortable - whatever it takes. Morphine or anything - that is the main thing to remember.
And tell him always how much you love him. Time is short and we all take so much for granted when we wake up every day - or when we see our loved ones including our parents. Never realizing that our days are all numbered. So talk to your father about anything and everything when he feels up to it. Most of all, just be there for him, but also make time for yourself.
My prayers are with you and all of us who must go through this terrible debilatating ordeal with our loved ones.
God Bless You.