Posted by SheKei
on September 09, 2000 at 13:15:26:
We just found out Thursday that my Mom has cancer. Her doctors strongly suspected cancer we just did not expect the prognosis. My Mom started complaining 6 weeks ago about a mild back pain. Thursday they opened her up with the hopes of being able to remove the tumor but they bought us the news that the cancer was everywhere; pancreas, spleen, stomach, small intestines, and intertwined with major blood vessels and such. They really suspect it is an agressive cancer. They closed her back up. I'm just thankful that my Mom is not in a lot of pain (of course, now whe will have pain from healing from the surgery.) They are great about making sure she does not have any. My Mom does not want to have to fly/drive all over the place to get a second opinion. Her doctors say that chemo and radiation are of no use now. My Mom wants to spend her remaining time surrounded by her kids and doing as much as possible. I want to honor my Mom's wishes but I also know that my other siblings want to do whatever it takes to get her healthy again, if possible. My Mom feels that if the doctors could have done anything they would have. She says that we can do a second opinion but only with the paperwork from her doctors. She does not want to go in for tests and such or any kind of surgery. She wants to live what life she she has left with family and friends being as vital as she can and not in a hospital room. She has a Peace about the matter and is more concerned for us kids and how we are holding up. What do you do in this situation? I feel what my Mom wants should come first. It's hard to believe that her back pain just started about six weeks ago. My Mom has never been sick, she's 64 and all she has been taking is blood pressure meds. It's hard to believe that a woman who never, drank, smoke, etc can end up with something like this. It seems to have appeared out of thin air.