Posted by Stewart
on October 10, 2000 at 22:38:03:
In Reply to: Mom diagnosed with Cancer.... posted by SunflowerMom on October 10, 2000 at 22:00:57:
Been there done this. At first you don't know what to do at all. There is no remedy for how to move in the right way. Then you find that everything starts falling into place. All of a sudden the family is "living with cancer". It becomes part of the daily routine. Once the shock wares off, you will begin to see this, though it may take some time. You need to be good to yourself first, or you won't be good to anyone else. Make sure your schedules are well thought out. Due to the shock, your memory might take a temporary nose dive, keep a calendar with you. I don't mean to sound trite, but it all falls into place. Expect ups and downs as there will be many. When you live with someone with cancer, life changes in many ways, one adjusts and finds themselves going back to things they enjoyed. Hard to express this, I hope I helped. I will say a prayer for all involved. God Bless. Stewart.
: Hi all,
: I am just so numb right now. My mom just got her biopsy back on the tumor that was removed from her large intestine. It had perforated, and made a small whole in her intestinal wall. They said it had spread to 2 of her nearby lymph nodes. I am NOT happy to hear that! But she has stage 3 cancer, so he said it is treatable. It sounds like, with chemotherapy, she will have a 50%-65% chance of the cancer not coming back. Not a great statistic, but better than not having a chance at all. It's been a long hard day for me today. I was elected the family spokesperson, and even though her husband is there by her side, I am her main support...mostly because she feels like she can talk with me. She can tell that her DH gets uncomfortable when she is in pain or is crying. I guess my question is what can I do to help ease her mind and to continue being her support, without burning myself out. I have 2 young boys, age 6yrs and 2 yrs., so I have to be there for them too. I'm being spread sooo thin right now.....I feel like I have to be the strong one in the family for my younger sister, my stepdad, and my mom. Also, do any of you have any suggestions on some inexpensive "feel good" kind of things that we can do for her when her spirits get low, or she's feeling ugly or something?? I have never had to deal with cancer....it doesn't run in our family....so I am so clueless! Thank you for reading this long message!!! I hope to hear from someone soon!!!