Posted by Red Rose
on October 14, 2000 at 00:09:55:
In Reply to: Mom diagnosed with Cancer.... posted by SunflowerMom on October 10, 2000 at 22:00:57:
: Hi all,
: I am just so numb right now. My mom just got her biopsy back on the tumor that was removed from her large intestine. It had perforated, and made a small whole in her intestinal wall. They said it had spread to 2 of her nearby lymph nodes. I am NOT happy to hear that! But she has stage 3 cancer, so he said it is treatable. It sounds like, with chemotherapy, she will have a 50%-65% chance of the cancer not coming back. Not a great statistic, but better than not having a chance at all. It's been a long hard day for me today. I was elected the family spokesperson, and even though her husband is there by her side, I am her main support...mostly because she feels like she can talk with me. She can tell that her DH gets uncomfortable when she is in pain or is crying. I guess my question is what can I do to help ease her mind and to continue being her support, without burning myself out. I have 2 young boys, age 6yrs and 2 yrs., so I have to be there for them too. I'm being spread sooo thin right now.....I feel like I have to be the strong one in the family for my younger sister, my stepdad, and my mom. Also, do any of you have any suggestions on some inexpensive "feel good" kind of things that we can do for her when her spirits get low, or she's feeling ugly or something?? I have never had to deal with cancer....it doesn't run in our family....so I am so clueless! Thank you for reading this long message!!! I hope to hear from someone soon!!!
Hi! I know what you are going threw. My mom had surgery for cancer two years ago in the same place as your moms. I have 3 young children and am also the elected one in my family to help my parents. It has consumed my life. My dad also has diabetes and it has taken a tole on his life and mine. There are lots of things I could tell you but I'm not sure what I can post. My mom takes natural things to help her deal with side effects etc. Not sure what I can post so I am giving you my e-mail if you would like to know how she has coped with her cancer. It has been two years and right now she is cancer free. I need more info on your mom to help you the best I can. For example what stage of cancer is she in? What is the name of her cancer? I know of different informational sites that are fairly common to most but since this is new to you, you might not know of them. If you wish I could go into more detail about my moms cancer and her treatments,just contact me and I'll be glad to.To everyone else,Please dont email me unless it is something that cannot be put on the board. Otherwise, I'll be glad to help anyone