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Re: Mother who wants to die with dignity
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Posted by Tina Ellenburg LVN
on December 05, 1999 at 11:59:42:
In Reply to: Mother who wants to die with dignity posted by Mother's daughter on October 05, 1999 at 00:21:57:
This is a very difficult situation. If your mother refuses treatment that is her right whether you want her to or not. However she needs to know the facts and the consequences of her decision. And you should abide by whatever decision she makes.
Hospice is a wonderful thing. And if she does decide to go that way they will make sure she isn't in any pain. If by not having further treatment she will die and she decides on not having any more treatment then she is terminal and hospice will care for her. Usually people can be on hospice for a year or more depending on the circumstances and health. Talk to her doctor and talk to the psychiatrist again. Get with your brother and do it as a team and have them help you to help your mother as best you can while abiding by her decisions. If she is not mentally able to make her own decisions then you need to find out how to make them for her and be as totally informed about her disease processes and treatment options as you can to make the right choices.
There is no reason that your mother should have to suffer in great pain even if she chooses to go on with the treatment she is prescribed. She has to tell the doctors about her pain before they can help alleviate it. No one can presume to know the degree of pain another is feeling and therefore she must be able to explain the pain to them.
I hope I have been of some help and you have my support. This is really a difficult situation for anyone.
I was educated at Amarillo College School of Vocational Nursing in Amarillo Texas and graduated in 1994. I have worked in Nursing Homes for 5 1/2 years now and have dealt with death,disease,and family quite a bit and it never ceases to amaze me at the strength of love. My heart and good wishes are with you.
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