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Re: husband making himself into an invalid

Re: husband making himself into an invalid

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Posted by Carol A on May 22, 2000 at 05:45:53:

In Reply to: husband making himself into an invalid posted by Elizabeth Hohloch on May 21, 2000 at 00:41:00:

Forgiveness is the answer...when we agree to take spouses for better or worse we are always shocked how worser it can get.

We have to forgive daily, esp. the things that irk us the most, or we are the ones that get eaten up with the resentments.
You can't change him, but you can change yourself..you can let go of the anger and forgive.
Now, I did not say forgive and be his maid service or door mat.

You have to take care of your own needs too, If you need to pay someone to help, tell him that is what you have to do, and make sure he knows he is paying his share too, which may mean cutting out sonme things he holds dear like cable TV, or whatever.

Don't do this to manipulate or get revenge or it will backfire in your face. Truly forgive, and talk over what changes have to be made to take care of your needs too. Then make sure those changes happen.


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