Posted by Donna Sweeney
on November 13, 2000 at 15:52:01:
In Reply to: Re: 36 year old brother w/mild cp needs motivation - any advice? posted by heidi helmick on March 11, 2000 at 17:11:40:
: : My brother, Eddie, has what I suppose you would call mild CP. He has never been in a wheelchair (except for a broken leg years ago). He speaks well, better when strangers are not around. He walks with a limp and loud noises can cause him to loose his footing and fall down.
: : Eddie drives his own van - without any special aparatus, he cooks and cleans and balances his checkbook. We have recently had success in getting Eddie to participate in social activities, though he is very shy.
: : My problem is that my father is reaching 83 years old. Though my father has made much more effort in the last eight years to get Eddie to be more indenpent - there are relatives who feel it is cruel for my father to encourage Eddie to attend a junior college and focus on some sort of vocational or academic training.
: : There are family members that seem to feel that Eddie's mild form of CP makes it impossible to expect more of him. My father feels his son is very intelligent and does not like Eddie using his dasability as a reason to just sit back and watch the world go by.
: : If anyone would have any stories of encouragement, to show Eddie that there is a world of opportunity out there if he would only reach for it. Can anyone assure him that he has opportunities out there that maybe his parents were unaware of, but that Eddie can go after?
: : Any help would be greatly appreciated. We see a great mine going to waste watching the Jerry Springer Show!!!
: : Thank you
: Hi Nancy,
: I have Mild Cerebral Palsy and I am a senior
: at Columbia College. Although there is a lot that
: I can do, I can not drive a car or a van which would make my life more easier...
: Your brother sounds like a very nice and wonderful person and it shows that you have a nice family that cares.:)
: I would like to suggest that you encourage him
: in a hobby or ask him to take a trip to a college campus. I would also like to suggest Long Distance Learning on a computer...
: I am very glad that your family is not the type to give up on someone that has Cerebal Palsy.Emotional Support is very important as you may know and also good friends....Unfornately for me, my family is dysfunctional and members are living in other states so I really don't have much of a support system.. I am glad that your
: brother has someone like yourself and your Father
: to care...
I have newly married a man that was born with mild cp. His right hand he cant use much as it has a mind of its own sometimes and at night sometimes goes a little wild.
But he went through 6 years of college as hard as it was he said it did him good. He is now 32. Has always held down a job and in Sept 2 weeks after our marriage got a good job.
He has a little in his right leg so he has a left foot excelerator in the car. And on the steering wheel a ball to help him turn.
I am a mom of two children and he came into my life shortly after my divorce from a really bad marriage.
He dresses, eats, ties his shoes, types on the computer all with one hand his left.
I have nothing physically wrong with me and am so taken that he was born with this and has always tried everything like everyone else.
He has not let his diability get in the way of anything. In college he earned a Degree which I think is so remarkable.
If you would like to see him we have a web page from our wedding.
Sincerely Donna Sweeney
PS> I hope this has given you some hope.