Re: Was I wrong?
Re: Was I wrong?
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Posted by I'm Very Sorry, Kat
on October 09, 2000 at 03:57:18:
In Reply to: Re: Was I wrong? posted by Kat on October 09, 2000 at 01:23:54:
: While I respect your opinion I think there are things that make this situation different. I didn't give him a second chance because he had blown me off for the last time. He is not interested in holding a conversation with me unless it's about sex. I have to get naked to get his attention. As far as friends go he has more female friends than male friends. He goes to their house or calls them on the phone if he wants to talk to someone. When it comes to talking to me he falls asleep or is too busy. For years I trusted him because I always knew where he was at. Keep in mind I have no friends which means I don't go anywhere. He was happy as long as I was sitting in my chair. He has had time for everyone but me. I had never tested his jealousy until now, although it was unintentional. I however have shown no jealousy. He does as he pleases with no problems from me. After he pulled his childish temper tantrum he then proceeded to go to my grandmother and convince her I was fooling around. Very nice. When one of his friends goes somewhere with their wife, girlfriend or other friends instead of him he thinks they are being jerks. I'd say he has a control problem and needs to be the center of attention. According to your opinion I should have sat in my chair and slowly broke down by myself. He doesn't even notice when I'm losing it. Thank you for your best wishes and we will try to work things out, but I need to talk to more than just the cats. They're cute but they don't help. Sorry if I sound a little defensive, I'm a little emotional right now.
I'm so sorry. I didn't know the whole history of his inattentiveness, and now I see a bigger picture. I revoke my last opinion. I don't blame you. I, too, am kept isolated from other people, and don't even have cats to talk to! (I'm allergic). Maybe it's for the best, the split. I hadn't realized he was like what you just described. I'm very, very sorry if I made you feel worse. I come to this board for support and guidance, like you. I hope things work out the way YOU want them to. I'll keep an eye out for you on the board, to see how you are doing. My best wishes to you........