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Re: I can't believe this is my life.

Re: I can't believe this is my life.

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Posted by Jody on October 14, 2000 at 10:32:34:

In Reply to: I can't believe this is my life. posted by Sandy on October 14, 2000 at 04:53:42:

: Today I was thrown out of my house.

: My fiance of six years, had a stroke in July. I've been his primary caregiver till today. He has a 15 year old daughter that lives with us. She decided to that she didn't want me there anymore and asked her dad to pick between us. Of course he picked his daughter.

: I've never once had a problem with this girl. His daughter has serious mental problems. Her mom gave her up as an infant, he's had full custody ever since. This girl destroys everything. Her possessions, she has no girlfriends, no hobbies - nothing. No interests other than to destroy other peoples lives.

: I never thought she'd set out to destroy my relationship with her dad. I do everything for this man given his stroke. Including handling all personal care. He tells me every day how he would have killed himself along time ago if I hadn't been there for him.

: And now this. I can't believe for one single moment that I've had to leave him in her care. She called in her some people that don't really care for me anyhow, and rather enjoyed kicking me out.

: I am so distraught over his care. I feel like I've left him with a den of lions. I know that he did not want me to go, but he felt he had no choice. His daughter said that if I stayed then she wouldn't and he couldn't handle that.

: I love this man dearly. I never thought his daughter would do this to me. I have never and I mean never done anything to hurt this girl. She told everyone that I'm taking her dad away from her.

: She's blaming me for symptoms of his stroke. He's not the same person he once was. I was trying to get him back to that - now I can't see that happening. This is killing me. I don't know how to handle this situation. I've been told that it's not up for discussion that they've already hired a nurse.

: I know that that would kill him. He can't handle someone giving him a shower - only me - he says that at least when I do it for him he has some dignity left intact - a piece of our old lives.

: I just don't know what this is going to do to him or me for that matter. This kid gets away with everything, she's a monster in the making. How can this happen? I just don't get it. I just needed to vent. I can't sleep. I'm just completely losing it.

I am so sorry Sandy. This is just awful, and I can tell how much it is hurting you. Are you still going to be able to see him? If so, maybe things will change. If not, is talking to the girl's mother an option? Is there anyone involved that you are able to talk to? You are in my prayers girl.
Jody


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