Posted by virginia
on August 06, 2000 at 16:21:38:
In Reply to: Re: Diabetic husband is making me ill posted by kinab on August 06, 2000 at 01:43:35:
: : : Give your husband a break! If his sugar levels are @ 200, then he's litterally too tired to move. Some diabetics crave sugar like alcoholics crave liqour. Maybe he did sit at his office, but his sitting put bread on the table. If you want to help, find subtle ways to get him out of the house. Buy pies and cakes made with nutri-sweet. Your super-market bakeries carry them.
: : : My husband has had diabetes for about 20 years, he is now 75. He never has gotten his sugar under control, he does not want to eat the things he should. His sugar is usually around 200. He would never exercise, was always extremely setintary and when he worked he went to his office and of course sat.
: : : I have always done the physical work around our house, but, I have a few health problems and I am very, very tried of doing things while all he does is sit all day long with a book or newspaper. I have tried everything I can think of to no avail. He says that he cannot walk far because his calves knot up, I suggested physical therapy and he doesn't care, he is content to just sit.
: : : I cannot go on any longer, I have told him that I am going to leave if he doesn't try to help himself and he just blows me off. I am 66 years old and have great dread of living the rest of my life caring for someone who is so selfish. I also have a 91 year old mother that I go to check on and help, she however tries to do all she can for herself.
: : : I have no respect for my husband and I am getting very depressed, I have thyroid problems, I was getting atrial fib a lot the last few years and now have a pacemaker--during all this time my husband did not help me---he is that way with people. My question is---do diabetes act like this, if this continues, I am stepping out. Any suggestions.
: I figured I would be misunderstood--it would take too long to post. I worked also, before he had diabetes he still wouldn't exercise or eat correctly, and I am not talking about consuming sweets only. Our doctor said that if my husband would lose weight and exercise, he would not have to take insulin. He has brought this upon both of us, a break, lady you don't know what you are talking about. I am sorry I posted.
It doesn't sound like your husband will ever change. I know you are frustrated and upset about your situation. Since you can't change him, I would suggest that you take care of yourself. Maybe insist on hiring someone to do the household work. Since your husband is not interested in your needs, he is not doing his duty, but he's gotten away with his behavior so long that I don't think you will be able to change him. If he won't let you hire someone to come in to help, then you will have make your decision from there. Yes, diabetes makes you tired and slows you down, but it doesn't make you hate your family and refuse to help them.