Re: response to NA
Re: response to NA
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Posted by friend
on August 26, 2000 at 05:06:08:
In Reply to: response to NA posted by carol on August 03, 2000 at 21:24:52:
Sharing my story may not make you feel better, but I hope it encourages you to feel better about yourself, accept yopurself, and go out and make friends, which is what you deserve!
I have not had an amputation, but did face the possibility of one twice. I do have mangled and crippled legs. I used to be so humiliated that it interfered with my life. Then I realized that the sum total of who I am is not in my looks.
I quit caring what anyone else did or thought.
I realized that feeling sorry for myself was influencing others to feel sorry for me too, so others reached out...maybe just out of curiosity, but my self-image invited the sympathy from others.
They probably feel sorry for you more than meaning to be rude.
People do still stare at my legs and do ask questions at times. I just say I was injured and move on. I don't want to be rude to an innocent question, but no one is obligated beyond a simple and impersonal answer.
I also avoid eye contact with strangers unless I am willing to share myself with them. Sometimes I am, sometimes I am not. If I am feeling OK inside myself, I actually wear shorts in public, now, or short dresses. If I am feeling more private and/or unable to deal with stares, I wear long pants, so no one can see my legs.
The thing is, I recognize that what I feel is up to me. I don't have to stay at home and hide, because I can feel OK about me. I know God accepts me, through Jesus, and that is what I hang onto. It gives me enough peace to live normally.
I just want to encourage you! If you can accept your lot, and have a positive attitude people will not as much notice your stump so much they speak to you about it, and if they do, you will be ready to answer.
I hope you do not hide yourself, as you are unique and have much to offer. There are others that have personal stuff going on that you may not see, that need you for a friend, as much as you need one yourself!