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Posted by Tina Ellenburg
on November 30, 1999 at 22:16:38:
In Reply to: Why physically disabled are outcasts? posted by Linda Knowles on March 29, 1999 at 21:14:29:
Well I have asked myself the same questions many times and the only answers I have been able to come up with are as follows.
People fear what they don't know. And it is human nature to deny that such a thing could ever happen to them and those are the ones that need a wake up call!
It is a shame but there are just so many people in this world that just plain don't care. The time of people helping people seems to be over. More and more people are just plain afraid to get involved. It used to be when you saw a handicapped person you would ask if there was anything you could do to help. Now people walk right by as if you were invisible.
It really makes me angry and I am learning more and more about the ingnoring or should I say ignorance. I have a back injury they say shouldn't be a problem. I have spondylolithesis and a bulging disc at L5S1, both at the same place.
I have chronic severe pain, I have trouble walking and getting up and down and am not even supposed to sit more than an hour a day. Not so bad huh? Well let me tell you about my solo trip to the grocery store.
I went to the same store I always go to and it is painful to drive. No one was home to go with me. I had a heck of a time getting in the car and then and elderly lady helped me out of the car at the store. I slowly made my way around the store having to ask for help to get things high and low off the shelves. Mid way I got just too fatigued and had to use the bathroom. so I made my way there and parked my cart. I used the bathroom and couldn't get off the toilet. I sat there and cried for 45 minutes yelling and screaming for help before anyone came in. By this time I was hysterical and the poor woman couldn't help me, I am a large woman and she was tiny so she had to get the manager----a man to come help me. I was embarrassed to death and crying hysterical and just pulled my clothing together and thanked the man and left the store and went home. No one can know what that feels like unless it happens to them. No one heard me. I was more terrified than I have ever been in my life and then to have to rely on a strange man to help me off the toilet was horrifying. I am 42 yo and a nurse, but I still felt the same.
now I am terrified to leave my house alone and I fall frequently now so that doesn't help. My poor son goes everywhere with me without a complaint and he is 24 and has better things to do than hang out with mom. My husband works nights so he is asleep when I need to do things.
So believe me I understand and i wish every uncaring or ignorant ignoring person had to go thru just one day of what a disabled person goes thru. Maybe then they would have enough respect to talk to us, ask if we need help, or even smile and say hi once in awhile.
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