Posted by Jacqui Decker
on August 15, 2000 at 13:29:01:
In Reply to: Re: Behavioural Problem posted by JENNIFER CHILES on July 17, 2000 at 00:27:42:
: : My 4 year old daughter with DS is always throwing things. Sometimes they are heavy things and hurt others, mostly it is household items which of course break. She has been reprimanded, given 'time out' (which she doesn't appear to understand anyway) - and still she does it. She thinks it's a game even though no one laughs but her and she often leaves her siblings in tears.
: : Her early intervention teacher does time out too but offers no other help with the problem other than trying to change her attention to something else but as the throwing is random you never know when she is going to do it. She has been doing this for years by the way.
: : Any ideas?
: FINALLY, I FEEL LIKE I AM NOT ALONE. MY LITTLE GIRL WHO IS FOUR ALSO HAS A BEHAVIORAL PROBLEM. SHE IS VERY MEAN TO HER YOUNGER BROTHER WHO IS A YEAR. WE HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING AND NOTHING HAS WORKED FOR US. IT IS HARD FOR US TO KNOW IF SHE REALLY UNDERSTANDS WHAT SHE IS DOING ALTHOUGH WE THINK THAT SHE DOES. WE FINALLY TOOK HER TO A PSYCHOLOGIST AND HE PRESCRIBED MEDICATION FOR HER. WE TRIED THAT FOR ABOUT 5 MONTHS WITH NO RESULTS. WE TOOK HER BACK RECENTLY AND SHE WAS PUT ON ANOTHER MEDICATION. I REALLY HATED TO HAVE HER ON MEDICINE BUT WE WERE UP AGAINST A WALL AND DIDNT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO AND THAT IS WHAT EVERYONE ELSE HAD RECOMMENDED. WE ARE HOPING THAT THIS WILL CALM HER DOWN AND HAVE HER BROTHER ENJOY HER. SHE REALLY IS A DOLL BUT SHE HAS HER TIMES WHEN SHE ISNT. BUT WE LOVE HER VERY DEARLY.
: HOPE TO HEAR BACK
: JENNIFER CHILES
I TOO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. WE HAVE A SON WHO IS 7. HE HAS BEEN THROWING THINGS SINCE HE WAS 3. MY SON LOVES WHEN SOMETHINGS MAKES A NOISE. HE LOVES ANY KIND OF SOUND AND THE SENSATION IT BRINGS ALONG WITH IT.
THIS IS WHY HE CONTINUES TO THROW THINGS.
LET ME TELL YOU WHEN I REPREMAND HIS BEHAVIOUR IT ONLY MAKES IT WORSE. IF I SHOW MY ANGER THAT ALSO MAKES IT WORSE. I HAVE LEARN'T THAT INSTEAD OF TELLING HIM OFF, I NEED TO GUIDE HIM AND GIVE HIM SOMETHING ELSE TO PLAY WITH. INSTEAD OF SAYING,'DON'T DO THAT'. I SAY," WHAT ABOUT DOING IT LIKE THIS".
THIS POSITIVE ATTENTION HAS IMPROVED THE WAY HE REACTS. IT ALSO HELPS KEEP ME FROM GOING CRAZY.
WHAT I HAVE NOW MENTIONED HAS ONLY IN THE LAST YEAR STARTED TO TAKE EFFECT. I HOPE YOUR DAUGHTERS CATCH ON ALITTLE QUICKER. HOPEFULLY ITS TRUE WHAT THEY SAY ABOUT GIRLS.
HOPE THIS TIP MAY HELP.