Posted by charlize_p
on July 18, 2000 at 19:40:38:
In Reply to: Re: What do I do? posted by Debby on July 18, 2000 at 18:20:17:
: : I am afraid that my best friend is bullimic. She goes to the bathroom after almost every meal and gets sick. We've talked a little about it, but she seems to ignore the subject. What should I do as a friend? Please give me yor advice!!
: It must be very scary to sit back and see something that's going on like that. All I can really say to help is to tell you what MY roomate did/said to me. She noticed some of my behavior and one night told me that she used to be bullimic. She stressed how you cannot take it lightly and even told me how her best friend had just died from it. She offered her love and support and even offered to go to a counseling session with me. I admit, I didn't stop immediately after we talked - but it did help having someone who knew about it. All you can do is be there for her and let her know how scary this is for you. First of all see if she will open and and tell you why she does this. Bring up talking to a proffesional, but don't push it on her. Just leave it as an open invitation. Very important, though, is not to judge her or assume anything - I know I didn't want to tell ANYONE becasue of the stereotyped image everyone has of a bullemic - you don't want to identify with being "a bullemic" - I did it only once a week and thought that didn't even qualify. So, just keep talking to her and be there as a friend for support - that's all you can do.
Thanks for you reply. I will definitely sit down and talk to her about this. Hopefully she will seek out professional help..I'll keep you posted.